Nearly a decade after his patient, empathetic debut, Spa Night, bowed at Sundance 2016, Andrew Ahn still wields sensitivity as his sharpest tool. It brightens the gentle boy‑and‑Korean‑War‑veteran bond in Driveways and, in Fire Island, turns the tender friendship between Joel Kim Booster and Bowen Yang into the scaffolding for a riotous house of queer warmth and trust amid the bacchanal.. 

In his update of Ang Lee’s 1993 screwball The Wedding Banquet, Andrew Ahn pairs Kelly Marie Tran and Lily Gladstone’s earnest parents with Bowen Yang and Han Gi‑chan’s messy, green‑card‑fraught romance, charmingly measuring what has—and hasn’t—shifted in the 30 years since the original. 

Queer visibility and rights have grown, yet, through the screwball lens, Ahn shows how desire and the power to fulfill it can still collide. Guided by his trademark compassion, he untangles the emotionally loaded choices queer adults face as they move into new life stages amid the people they love. 

Grindr spoke with Andrew about tradition, celebration, and how much has changed for the queer community since the original film, a few days before the film made its debut in US theaters. 

Q: Huge congrats on the film! How are you doing?

"I’m very tired, but I'm doing all right. I'm very ready to get this movie out there."

Q: You’ve said films like Spa Night are deeply personal; as your career grows, is it becoming easier or harder to maintain the balance between your personal bond with a film and letting it go to live its own life with audiences?

"I'll say it's harder to make personal films that are also more accessible and meant for a wider audience. I knew that the people going to see Spa Night would really understand my connection to the material. But with The Wedding Banquet, because it is a wider release, there are more people watching it, and I think you're more vulnerable. I also think that I get to Trojan Horse the personal aspects of the film into this rom-com genre. I think there will be some people who don't understand that connection at all, and that also makes me nervous, but I think I've grown a lot as a filmmaker, and have more strength to deal with audience reaction. And I'm very glad that many people have embraced this film so beautifully. And so I feel very ready. But, yeah, it's a weird thing to try and to make a quote, unquote, commercial film that you know is a lot about the phase of adulthood that I find myself in."

‍Q: Does that phase of adulthood also include some of the things that you've explored in your past work, as far as the compatibility between tradition, traditional Korean culture, and modern life?

"I think the older I get, the more I realize how interconnected everything is, and how my cultural identity and my desires for building queer family, my relationship to my boyfriend, my relationship to my parents. It's all so connected, and I hate it, right? I wish I could compartmentalize them in a way, but I've chosen to embrace them all and try to let them all coexist together, because I think that leads to a healthier life, even though it might be more complicated.

And so, I think about how I love my boyfriend and hope to get married someday. I hope to celebrate with some of these Korean traditions and rituals, which would bring me closer to my parents, because these are rituals that they participated in, and that would also bring them closer to my partner, you know? Like, there's just something about how all of those things influence each other that I don't want to deny. And so there wa  a wealth of feeling that I channeled into reimagining this movie."

‍Q: The film’s emotional ecosystem is clear: it celebrates the strides LGBTQ people have made since Ang Lee’s version, yet it keeps a sharp eye on how fragile those gains remain. Kelly says, “If it happens, it happens,” and Lily fires back, “Not for gay people”—a perfect snapshot of that precarity. How did you thread that needle?

"There's something so interesting about how it's hard enough as it is to be gay, without homophobia. That particular moment that you mentioned is lifted from my personal experience. My boyfriend said to me when we're talking about kids, like, “If it happens, it happens.” And there was something about him saying that that made me realize that as queer people, because we can't Whoopsie daisy a baby, we have to be extremely intentional about having children, and so any sort of hesitation could become a giant obstacle. And that's not homophobia. It's already complicated. 

We're already dealing with our own issues, whether that's self-loathing or bad parenting. I think that there are just so many obstacles, and so all I want is to have as much of a level playing field as possible in these rights to love who you want to love, have a family, care for the people, and protect the people in your life that you're close to. I think there's just a strange constant state of anxiety that we live in. And so, what's the way that we can combat that? And for me, it's chosen family. How can we trust in the love that we have for each other?"

‍Q: I think that's also evident in a line that Lily Gladstone says, where she's talking about how she is critical of institutions, but she is pro-celebration. Could you talk about writing that scene? 

"I think especially after we cast Lily, and my conversations with her about making the character Indigenous, and talking about the Duwamish people and how they're not federally recognized, just this desire to protect a legacy. And I think a part of that is tradition. And I think that there's a weird conflict, right? Because so many traditions can feel very heteronormative, and so, how do you balance those things? I wanted Lee to really just understand that there are beautiful things that can come out of tradition. And we just have to be very clear, in a way, about what's important to us, and what isn't? 

I remember going to a friend's wedding a couple of years ago, and her father gave a toast, and he said, I love you. And she was crying, and I went over to her and said, “Your father's toast was so beautiful.” And she said that he had never said, “I love you” before in their life, and that it took the wedding for that to get articulated. And as much as you can hate marriage and weddings, I was so happy for her. And so that's just what was part of what I was trying to get at. And it's kind of weird to say that, at least within my queer bubble, that me wanting to get married and wanting to have kids somehow feels radical, it feels so annoying to say that. Still, it does feel that way, because so few of my friends want those things, and there are very good reasons for that. I totally get it."

‍Q: I think it absolutely makes sense and is contrasted very nicely against the way that you frame the performance of heterosexuality and heteronormativity in the film. I love the photo shoot sequence. Could you talk about some of the setups and themes and ideas that you had devised for that sequence? 

"I think that there's something about the performance of love. I think there's a lot of performance in the film, right? Even Joan Chen's character may be a performative ally. Like, from the get-go, being on stage with a drag queen and a lion dance troupe—I wanted to give May another moment to perform later in the film. But I think, in that photo studio scene, I wanted it to be a moment for Min’s grandmother, played by the incomparable Youn Yuh-jung, to see the ridiculousness of what's happening and to have that open her up to something more real. I love that conversation that she has with her grandson, against this artifice of, like, a ski mother-daughter photo shoot, just to really articulate how we try to identify authenticity."

‍Q: We've talked a little bit about your love of bathrooms and having scenes in bathrooms. Could you talk about writing the scene with Joan Chen and Kelly Marie Tran in the bathroom?

"I think you have to be honest in a bathroom, people poo, people pee, in a bathroom, it's very clear. Even when you're getting ready, there's something about, like, " Well, okay, I have to acknowledge the human underneath the makeup or whatever. But it felt really important for that particular scene to happen in an unglamorous place, and for these characters to finally see each other. Regarding this question of parenting and allyship, sometimes people think that, once you figure it out, there you have it. Like May Chen wins an award, she's the perfect mother, and I think she's acknowledging in that scene that parenting and allyship are constant processes where you learn from each other—and that you shouldn't be afraid of the process, right? 

It worked out with the pregnancy test and just sitting on the ground. We rehearsed it, and at first they were gonna sit on the edge of the tub, but there was just something about the idea of, “Let's humble both of ourselves to the situation.” And it was just incredibly inspiring to see these two incredible actors work. It's one of my favorite scenes in the film. I should also mention that all four of my films so far have puke in them."

‍Q: Yeah, yes, I was gonna bring that up as well. 

"You can't, you can't deny puke, right? It's just like such a visceral feeling."

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Whether you’re a sweaty traveler on an MRT adventure, a local twink who can debate bubble tea toppings for hours, or someone who just wants a stiff cocktail and a handsome guy to show you around, this is your no-nonsense guide to the best of gay Taipei.

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To cut through the tourist fluff, we went straight to the source — asking real Grindr users in Taipei where they eat, drink, dance, and recover. Take a look below for our curated travel guide:

Favorite Queer-Friendly Restaurant or Food Spot

These are the places you start your night with dumplings and end it three cocktails deep.

Mudan Bar & Restaurant – Ximen (Red House Plaza)

Old-school queer comfort food meets open-air bar vibes. Mudan has been serving Taiwan’s LGBTQ+ community for years with tasty Taiwanese xiaochi (snacks) and grill bites, all under rainbow lanterns.

📍 No. 45, Lane 10, Chengdu Rd, Wanhua District (behind The Red House)

🔥 Tip: Grab a plate of stir-fried noodles and join the communal table. By your second Taiwan Beer, you’ll be trading Grindr profiles with the table next door.

Din Tai Fung (Taipei 101) – Xinyi District

Yes, it’s a world-famous dumpling house and totally worth it. Think of Din Tai Fung as a pilgrimage spot for foodies (queer or otherwise) – the soup dumplings here are little pillows of heaven. The vibe is bustling but classy, and you’re just as likely to spot a table of gay friends on brunch as you are a family of tourists. It’s queer-friendly by sheer inclusivity – everyone’s too busy slurping and moaning over dumplings to care who you’re holding hands with.

📍 4F, Taipei 101 Mall, No. 45, Shifu Rd, Xinyi District (inside Taipei 101, access via Taipei 101/World Trade Center MRT)

🔥 Tip: The wait can be long, so go early or reserve. Practice your Xiaolongbao nipple pinch technique (lift those dumplings gently)!

Ay-Chung Flour Rice Noodles – Ximending

Street food legend and post-club ritual. There are no seats – you’ll join a huddle of patrons standing and slurping big bowls of vermicelli noodles in rich broth loaded with oysters and pork intestine (for the Western palate—trust us, it’s better than it sounds!). This corner stall has been around forever, and at 2 a.m. you’ll find drag queens, club kids, and maybe your latest Grindr chat all in line for a late-night snack.

📍 No. 8-1, Emei St, Wanhua District (in the Ximen pedestrian area, near Exit 6 of Ximen MRT)

🔥 Tip: Slurp confidently! It’s an art. Keep one hand on your bowl and one eye on that cutie next to you. Nothing says “marry me” like bonding over pig intestine noodles at 3 in the morning.

Best LGBTQ+ Bar or Nightlife Spot

There’s “out all night,” and then there’s Taipei. These are your non-negotiables for queer nightlife.

Café Dalida – Ximen (Red House District)

The granddaddy of Taipei gay bars and the drag hotspot that basically launched the local scene. Café Dalida is an open-air bar with a neon-lit patio that’s perfect for people-watching (and cruising) in the Red House plaza. Expect a lively mix of locals and foreigners, drag shows that range from campy to absolutely unhinged, and a soundtrack of pop anthems that’ll have you singing along by your second mojito.

📍 No. 51, Lane 10, Chengdu Rd, Wanhua District (in the Red House courtyard, Ximen MRT Exit 6)

🔥 Tip: Arrive by 9pm if you want a seat (seriously). Order the signature mojito, tip the drag queens, and don’t be shy – by the end of the night you might be onstage attempting a Mandarin pop lip-sync. Ni hao, new superstar!

G*Star Club – Zhongshan District

Ready to dance your pants off (perhaps literally)? G*Star is Taipei’s most famous gay dance club, hidden in a basement but known citywide for its high-energy parties. Three words: pop remixes galore. The crowd here skews younger and local with plenty of cute college guys and pop enthusiasts, but everyone is welcome as long as you’re ready to sweat on the dance floor. There’s a bar, a stage for occasional go-go boys or drag performances, and even private karaoke rooms when you need a breather (or a duet with that handsome stranger).

📍 B1, No. 23, Longjiang Rd, Zhongshan District (near Songjiang-Nanjing MRT – listen for the bass thumping underground)

🔥 Tip: Dress to impress (or undress). The later it gets, the wilder the crowd. Don’t be surprised if you end up shirtless, covered in glitter, belting out Britney with ten new friends. This is your Taipei club-kid moment – live it fully.

Wonder Bar – Da’an District

A lesbian-owned gem and inclusive haven in Taipei’s East Side. Wonder Bar is all about chill vibes, strong cocktails, and a crowd that feels like your queer friend circle back home. It’s a smaller lounge with cozy couches and a zero-attitude atmosphere – you’ll find queer women, trans folk, non-binary pals, and allies mingling like it’s a house party.

📍 No. 23, Lane 38, Section 1, Anhe Rd, Da’an District (hidden in a lane near MRT Zhongxiao Anhe – look for the rainbow flag by the door)

🔥 Tip: Come on a themed event night (think queer trivia or acoustic sets). The friendly bartenders might just invent a cocktail for you based on your vibe. And yes, there’s a secret menu shot – ask for the “Gayby” if you’re feeling bold.

Must-Visit Cultural or Artistic Spot

Because even the thirstiest traveler needs a break from dropping it low at the club. Take a breather and get cultured with these must-see spots.

The Red House (Honglou) – Ximen

A cultural landmark turned queer landmark. The Red House is a historic 1908 theater with a gorgeous octagonal structure – by day it hosts quirky artisan shops and occasional art exhibits, but by night its surrounding plaza becomes the epicenter of gay Taipei. Walking through its brick archways knowing it’s been witness to a century of drama (from Chinese opera to drag extravaganzas) gives you goosebumps. It’s basically Taipei’s Rainbow Ground Zero.

📍 No. 10, Chengdu Rd, Wanhua District (Ximen Station Exit 6 – you literally can’t miss the big red brick building)

🔥 Tip: Visit in early evening. Tour the little cultural museum upstairs (peek at old theater memorabilia), then snag a pic with the big rainbow sign out front. If you’re lucky, you might catch an outdoor drag or music performance in the plaza. Culture + gay nightlife in one stop? Yes please.

GinGin LGBTQ+ Bookstore – Zhongzheng District

Part bookstore, part community center, all queer culture goldmine. GinGin is Asia’s first LGBTQ+ bookstore, a cozy fourth-floor haven packed with queer literature, zines, pride merch, and indie art. It’s the kind of place you can flip through a Taiwanese gay manga, chat with knowledgeable staff about the local LGBTQ+ scene, and maybe catch a weekend talk or small art exhibit.

📍 1F, No. 8, Alley 8, Lane 210, Sec. 3, Roosevelt Rd, Zhongzheng District (near MRT Taipower Building, just follow the rainbow stickers up the stairwell)

🔥 Tip: Pick up a sexy comic or a Pride souvenir to support local queer artists. If you’re traveling solo, check their bulletin board for LGBTQ+ events happening during your stay – you might end up at a queer film screening or underground voguing night you’d otherwise miss.

Longshan Temple – Wanhua District

When you need to atone for last night’s sins (or pray for future ones), hit up Taipei’s most famous temple. Longshan is an ornate Buddhist-Taoist temple that’s been around since 1738 – think golden dragons, incense galore, and worshippers of all ages. It’s not “queer” in the obvious sense, but queer locals (and hopeful tourists) do come to pray for love here.

📍 No. 211, Guangzhou St, Wanhua District (Longshan Temple MRT – the temple is right outside Exit 1)

🔥 Tip: Dress modestly (save the crop top for later) and observe the candle-lighting ritual. Make a wish for true love or a hot date – the deities don't judge. After soaking in the spiritual vibes, stroll to the nearby herbal tea shops for a revitalizing drink.

Favorite Queer-Friendly Gym or Workout Spot

Get sweaty now, so you don’t have to turn the lights off later.

Da’an Forest Park – Da’an District

Taipei’s own version of Central Park, lovingly nicknamed “Gay’an Park” by some locals for its plethora of shirtless joggers. Da’an Forest Park is a green oasis with running paths, ponds, and even an outdoor tai chi plaza. By morning, you’ll see toned guys doing yoga or jogging laps (bonus: cute dog walkers everywhere). By evening, the mood lighting makes it perfect for a stroll with that new friend you met on Grindr.

📍 Xinsheng South Road & Section 2, Xinyi Road, Da’an District (Right at Daan Park MRT Station)

🔥 Tip: Go at sunrise for the tai chi and stay for the impromptu pull-up contests at the park’s fitness area. If you’re feeling bold, join a local badminton game – nothing breaks the ice like a little sweaty competition with the cute stranger in short shorts.

Xinyi Sports Center – Xinyi District

Who needs a luxury gym when Taipei’s public sports centers are this good? The Xinyi Sports Center is a multi-story fitness palace complete with a gym, swimming pool, and even a climbing wall, all at budget-friendly day-pass rates. It’s clean, modern, and right in the fancy Xinyi neighborhood. The crowd is mixed but you’ll definitely spot some gym bunnies and maybe a visiting businessman or two sneaking in a quick pump before hitting the town.

📍 No. 15, Guangfu South Road, Xinyi District (near Taipei City Hall MRT Exit 3)

🔥 Tip: Day pass costs less than your grande latte, so no excuses! Hit the rooftop track for a killer view of Taipei 101 while you run. And if you forgot your water bottle, the vending machines sell protein shakes—gains, babe. Go get ‘em.

World Gym (Ximen Branch) – Wanhua District

If you must get your grind (and Grindr) on at a proper gym, World Gym Ximen is the place. This branch of the popular chain is smack in the middle of the gayborhood, meaning eye candy on every treadmill. It’s got all the standard equipment, plus a hefty dose of queer-friendly energy.

📍 B1, No. 36, Xining South Rd, Wanhua District (Ximen Station Exit 6, under the Wannian Building shopping complex)

🔥 Tip: They offer one-day passes (around NT$600). Bring your own padlock for the locker and your best gym attire. Pro move: hit the sauna room after your workout – it’s basically a preview of tonight’s party, with fewer clothes.

Hidden Gem or Lesser-Known Spot You Need to Check Out

Here’s where the real stories begin. Off-map, dimly-lit, and full of strange magic.

Witch House (女巫店) – Da’an District

A quirky café-bar-meets-live-music-den near university campus, Witch House is an alt-queer cultural landmark. By day it’s a chill cafe serving waffles and coffee to artsy queer folk and indie music lovers. By night, it transforms into an intimate live house featuring local bands, folk singers, and the occasional drag folk music mashup. This is the spot for a low-key night of board games and craft beer, or a starting point before club-hopping.

📍 No. 7, Lane 56, Sec. 3, Xinsheng South Rd, Da’an District (near Shida Night Market and NTU – look for the witch logo sign)

🔥 Tip: Check their event schedule; you might catch an open-mic night and end up listening to a non-binary punk band singing about tofu. Order the enchanted hot chocolate (spiked with a little whisky).

Yong He Soy Milk King – Da’an District (Late-Night Eatery)

The name might not scream “gay hotspot,” but hear us out: this 24-hour Taiwanese breakfast joint is the unofficial after-party canteen for Taipei’s night creatures. Stumble in at 4 AM and you’ll find a glorious mess of drag queens with their wigs askew, club kids in glitter, and maybe a few gym rats breaking their diets – all feasting on steaming bowls of salty soy milk, crispy youtiao (fried crullers) and scallion pancakes.

📍 No. 102, Fuxing South Rd, Section 2, Da’an District (corner of Fuxing and Xinyi Rd; open 24/7, just follow the smell of fresh soy milk)

🔥 Tip: Try the shāo bǐng yóu tiáo (flatbread stuffed with fried dough). Don’t worry about your diet at this hour.

Commander D – Ximen (BDSM Bar)

Tired of the same old bar scene? Head to Commander D, Taipei’s first and only BDSM-themed gay bar, for something a little spicier. Tucked away on a second floor, it’s surprisingly easy to miss – until you’re inside and greeted by a harness-clad bartender and walls adorned with kinky art. The crowd here ranges from curious newbies (nervously sipping beer) to leather daddies proudly flaunting their gear. It’s friendly, it’s wild, and it’s definitely a story to take home.

📍 2F, No. 10, Chengdu Rd, Wanhua District (above the shops at Red House, entrance hidden next to a leather goods store – of course 😈)

🔥 Tip: No need to suit up if you don’t have gear – casual attire is fine (but leave the flip-flops at home). Show respect: ask before touching anything or anyone. Try their strong “Master’s Special” cocktail.

Final Thoughts

Taipei is truly a queer paradise of its own. A city where you can slurp street noodles at 3 am, sweat out those toxins in a rooftop gym by noon, pay respects to a temple deity in the afternoon, and march in Asia’s biggest Pride parade come October – all while feeling welcomed and celebrated for who you are.

So pack an umbrella (seriously, surprise rain is real), charge your phone (the grid here is also real), and say hi to that drag queen ordering boba in front of you. In Taiwan, love wins and everyone’s invited – now get out there and make some memories.

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Dear Grindr Community,

At Grindr, we’re all about connection—whether it’s a spark, a scroll, or something a little more… hands-on. But in a world obsessed with optimizing every aspect of life—from your sleep score to your gut microbiome—there’s one nutrient-rich resource that’s been scandalously overlooked.

That’s right, we’re talking about cum.‍

Today, we’re hosting the world’s first Interactive Cum Calculator¹— a Grindr Blog exclusive that finally puts the vitamins, minerals, and precious protein of your favorite milk substitute under the microscope. Forget potatoes, protein bars, and kale smoothies. 2025 demands more. It’s time to log your daily intake of the world’s most unexpected nutrient source.

How to Use the Cum Calculator

1. View the Cum Calculator below.
2. Enter the Number of Loads you want to calculate.
3. View Your Results, which will show an approximate nutritional breakdown (calories, protein, etc.).

That’s all there is to it—no extra steps or details needed. Show your friends. Show your family. Show the world.

Naturally, these figures aren’t carved in stone—hydration, diet, and cosmic forces of testicular load all play a role. But we’ve compiled enough data through our research in order to give you a good idea.

Disclaimer: While the ingredients in a load are generally safe, ingesting it is not FDA-approved for nutritional purposes. But hey, before you get too adventurous, remember: practice safe sex and get tested regularly. Stay safe and savvy, babe.

Can Your Diet Handle Loads? A Checklist

Vegan — Some folks say if it’s from any animal, it’s a hard no. Others claim if it’s a consenting human, it’s basically cruelty-free—you decide, because the last thing we want to do is mess with a vegan.

Keto — Remember, every carb counts, but if you can pencil it into your 25-gram limit, you can consider it part of your daily bread (or just count is as electrolytes and move on).

Paleo — Our ancestors didn’t count macros—they just rawdogged life, ate whatever they could catch, and died at 30. If unprocessed, ancestral simplicity is your vibe, consider this the OG protein source. Farm-to-table? Back then, it was cave-to-mouth. Drink up.

Intermittent Fasting — No protein can go in your mouth before 12pm. But after that, go ahead, girl, get your fill.‍

Carnivore — Beat your meat and eat it too. With fruits and veggies off the table, a consenting partner’s contribution might be the only variety you’ve got left.

More Disclaimers

1. Not an Endorsement: We’re not telling you to replace breakfast, second breakfast, or even midnight snacks with, well, cum. Any medical professional would likely yell at us.
2. Social Repercussions: Whipping out the Cum Calculator during a conversation about local produce might send your dinner guests scurrying. Use responsibly.
3. Evolving Science: Like any frontier, the data will evolve as more daring souls look deeper. To that we say: we’re on it. So don’t be surprised if next year’s iteration includes charts on pH levels and differing flavor profiles.

New Orleans doesn’t seduce you. It dares you. To wear mesh in 90% humidity. To order a third cocktail before noon. To look someone in the eye on Bourbon Street and mean it.

This is a city where queer history isn’t sectioned off—it leaks through the walls. Every bar, balcony, and backroom is part of the story. Whether you’re here for Mardi Gras, Southern Decadence, or just to disappear for a while, New Orleans doesn’t ask who you are. It lets you find out.

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To cut through the tourist fluff, Grindr went straight to the source—asking real Grindr users in New Orleans where they eat, drink, dance, and recover. Take a look below for our curated travel guide:

Best Places to Eat Before (or After) the Bash

The Country Club (Bywater)

📍 634 Louisa St

Gay-owned and brunch-obsessed, this landmark is the Bywater gay bar that doubles as a restaurant, pool, and social hub. Come for the Drag Brunch. Stay for the crowd at the pool. Wear something that could pass as swimwear or an outfit for a Mardi Gras float.

Clover Grill (French Quarter)

📍 900 Bourbon St

This greasy spoon is part diner, part gay bash recovery unit. Open since 1939, it sits smack between the best gay bars in the French Quarter. Order a burger under a hubcap and soak in the post-exile confessions of the parade crowd still in their party glitter.

Elizabeth’s Restaurant (Bywater)

📍 601 Gallier St

Just beyond Dauphine and not far from a favorite local LGBTQ bar or two, this brunch spot serves up Praline Bacon and comfort food. It’s perfect for hungover queers, burnt-out drag queens, and anyone who’s just survived a Southern Decadence weekend.

Where the Bars Slap Hardest

Let’s talk bars—because New Orleans gay nightlife doesn’t mess around.

Oz (French Quarter)

📍 800 Bourbon St, at Ann Street

A top-tier gay bar and dance club, Oz has it all: RuPaul viewing parties, drag shows, and the occasional go-go boy crowd-surfing down Bourbon Street. This is the epicenter of the New Orleans gay scene. One foot out the door and you’re already at the next bar.

Phoenix Bar (Marigny)

📍 941 Elysian Fields Ave

The Phoenix is a leather daddy fortress of flirtation, known for its upstairs cruising floor and legendary gear nights. It’s also a prime example of how the gay community thrives in every NOLA neighborhood—not just the French Quarter.

Golden Lantern (French Quarter)

📍 1239 Royal Street

Where drag meets legacy. It’s the birthplace of Southern Decadence and a bar that hasn’t lost its soul to tourism. Tip the queens. Order a cocktail. Make friends. This is your friendly bar—queer, local, and open 24/7.

Corner Pocket (French Quarter)

📍 940 St. Louis St

This is the pub where boys dance on the bar and strangers tip like they mean it. New Meat Fridays are iconic. The gay community doesn’t just go here—they gather here.

Beyond the Bars: Culture, History, and Everything Else

Studio BE (Bywater)

📍 2941 Royal Street

This massive warehouse space is filled with Black art, political murals, and deeply moving pieces. It’s a cultural reset after one too many cocktails. It also sits near Marigny and Bywater’s queerest corners.

JAMNOLA (Marigny)

📍 940 Frenchmen St

A museum of NOLA weirdness and joy, with enough air conditioning to save your soul. Bring your tourist friend and your best outfit. The gay bash continues, just more colorfully.

LGBTQ+ History Walking Tour

📍 Near Jackson Square

Led by Frank Perez, the city’s unofficial gay historian, this tour winds through the French Quarter past Rampart, Royal Street, and Lafitte’s legacy. It connects every drag show, gay bar, and hookup to the rich gay community history behind it.

Where to Work Out (or Pretend To)

New Orleans Athletic Club (Rampart, French Quarter Adjacent)

📍 222 N Rampart St

Built in 1872, this gym is practically a historic landmark. Come for the architecture, stay to lock eyes with someone by the dumbbells. The LGBT community has always had a thing for cardio and cruising.

Crescent Park (Marigny/Bywater Riverfront)

Jog along the Mississippi with a view of the city skyline and your own guilt. Located near the Elysian Field edge of Marigny, it’s a popular path for locals, dancers, queers in friend bars, and occasional exiles from Bourbon St chaos.

Ochsner Fitness Center - Downtown

📍 13th Floor, Hancock Whitney Center

Less cruisy, more functional. But the skyline views are unmatched. Great for visiting queers who need to sweat out last night’s pub crawl.

Hidden Gems & Queer Corners

QiQi (Uptown)

📍 1515 Aline St

This is a lesbian-friendly, sarcastically staffed, cocktail-heavy queer bar that feels like your coolest friend’s basement. Uptown queers swear by it.

The Friendly Bar (Marigny)

📍 2301 Chartres St

This local dive wears its name well. No frills. Just pudding shots, cheap drinks, and regulars who remember Mardi Gras 1997 like it was yesterday.

GrrlSpot & Her Haus (Pop-Up Events)

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NOLA lacks a permanent lesbian bar, but these femme-forward dance parties fill the gap. Catch them in the French Quarter, Marigny, or even the Phoenix upstairs.

The Bottom Line

The Big Easy isn’t easy. It’s intense. It’s layered. And it’s incredibly queer.

Across every corner—from Lafitte’s Blacksmith pub to brunch in Bywater, from a dance club in Marigny to a friend bar in Uptown—New Orleans gives you permission. To be messy. To be sexy. To be loud. To be lost and found and found again.

Now get out there. Hydrate. Dance. Tip. Repeat.

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This week, we’re proud to present “Namibia: Breaking the Colonial Code,” spotlighting Omar van Reenen, co-founder of Equal Namibia. As one of the country's leading youth organizers, Omar has been at the forefront of the legal and cultural battle to dismantle Namibia’s apartheid-era sodomy laws. Their fight is deeply personal—and deeply rooted in ancestral history, strategic litigation, and the radical act of visibility.

Below is a bonus interview featuring Omar van Reenen, expanding on their journey and the movement that’s reshaping Namibia’s future.

What was it like when the court ruled to strike down Namibia’s sodomy law?

“Yeah, when the ruling came, you know, that feeling is hard to put into words. Growing up, I was told that who I am is illegal, that my love is a crime. But when the ruling came, that weight was lifted. But this ruling doesn’t change a law—it validates our existence.”

How does visibility function as resistance?

“I always share with the community that our greatest weapon against the government’s state-sanctioned homophobia is our community’s visibility. Because the only objective that these laws have, these laws that are passed by politicians coming from a place of hate, is to push us into the margins of society and erase our existence. So one way to fight back against that is to use our visibility as a weapon. Because when we take up space, there’s no way to erase that.”

You’ve said these laws aren’t originally African. What do you mean?

“Our ancestors had their own understandings of gender and sexuality. But both colonialism and apartheid tried to erase that. So this victory is about reclaiming our heritage as much as it is about human rights.”

What kind of resistance did you face while organizing?

“Yeah, we faced opposition at every turn—from legal hurdles to social stigma, even threats to our safety and a rise in hate crimes. But later, when people started joining us at rallies, on social media, I knew change was possible.”

What are your movement’s priorities now?

“Absolutely. So firstly, decriminalization is a significant milestone—getting rid of these colonial and apartheid-era laws. But our work is far from over. Next year, the government will be appealing the decriminalization verdict to the Supreme Court. Beyond that, we’re lobbying to make sure we pass anti-discrimination laws like the hate speech bill, to make sure we have healthcare access for all queer-bodied persons, and yes—marriage equality and legal gender recognition as well. Our goal is to really make sure that queer Namibians live openly and safely in this born-free republic.”

What role has Grindr for Equality played in your fight?

“It has been so great to see a company like Grindr do so much meaningful and intentional work to uplift grassroots organizations like ours. Grindr in Namibia is some of our only safe spaces. It’s where many of us experienced our first opportunities to intimately engage—and also to interact. Especially in rural parts of Namibia, where most of our queer organizing takes place in the capital. For a lot of Namibians, Grindr is that first door to queer intimacy, to queer interactions—and sometimes, to do so safely.”

What’s been the impact of working with the Grindr for Equality team?

“We’ve worked with them to send out notifications to our community—about protests, about court verdicts, about registering to vote. They also helped us launch, for the first time in Africa, the ability to order HIV self-testing kits directly on the app. People can get these delivered for free to their homes and then get connected to a local NGO for PrEP and PEP or other care. That kind of support—healthcare outside of the government's hands—means the world. Grindr didn’t come in with a top-down approach. They showed up to listen, to partner, to help. That’s rare. And it’s been so appreciated.”

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Bangkok, the capital of Thailand and a mecca for queer travelers, is not here to waste your time.

Whether you’re a sweaty traveler on a BTS adventure, a local twink with opinions, or someone who just wants a strong cocktail and a man to show you around, this is your no-nonsense, highly-horny guide to the best of gay Bangkok.

To cut through the tourist fluff, Grindr went straight to the source—asking real Grindr users in Bangkok where they eat, drink, dance, and recover. Take a look below for our curated travel guide:

Favorite Queer-Friendly Restaurant or Food Spot

These are the places you start your night with noodles and end it three negronis deep.

Pride Bar & Circus – Silom Soi 4

Equal parts dinner date, pregame, and runway show. Pride Bar is where you go for Thai street food favorites made fresh, and Circus is its draggy, disco-lit twin next door. Same owners, shared kitchen, and plenty of boys to keep you busy.

📍 Right on Silom Soi 4, a few skips from Sala Daeng BTS

🥢 Order the Pad Thai, flirt with your waiter, then follow the heels to Circus for a drag show and a highball.

Eat Me – Soi Phiphat 2

Sleek, sexy, and always full of people pretending they don’t see the trade from last night at the table across from them. Part luxury restaurant, part art gallery, Eat Me is ideal for when you want to impress someone without looking like you’re trying.

📍 Hidden just off Silom Road near Chong Nonsi BTS

🍮 Go for the sticky date pudding. Stay because Pangina Heals says it’s her favorite. And we listen to our queens.

Fork & Cork by Sphinx – Silom Soi 4

This queer-owned gem offers a menu that ping-pongs between creamy pastas and chili-soaked Thai classics. Think: crab curry and carbonara, gay friends clinking glasses, and the occasional live jazz band.

📍 Between chaos and calm on Soi 4

🥘 Try the green curry or the crab.

Best LGBTQ+ Bar or Nightlife Spot

There’s “out all night,” and then there’s Bangkok. These are your non-negotiables for nightlife.

DJ Station – Silom Soi 2

Three floors. Pop anthems. Thirsty men. A drag show at 11:30 p.m. sharp that always ends with a crowd losing their minds to Whitney. It’s the gay bar that made Silom the gay district it is today — still packed, still loud, still iconic.

📍 Silom Soi 2 — look for the crowd spilling into the street

💃 Arrive early or prepare to queue. Shirtless dancing encouraged.

House of Heals – Renaissance Hotel, Ratchaprasong

Glittering queer sanctuary in the sky. This rooftop stunner is the brainchild of Pangina Heals, with a dress-to-impress door policy and drag queens who can kill a ballad and pour your shot in the same breath.

📍 33rd floor of the Renaissance Hotel (near Chit Lom BTS)

👠 Wear something slutty. Order something fruity. Gasp at the skyline mid-lip-sync.

The Stranger Bar – Silom Soi 4

Tiny, chaotic, and deeply beloved, Stranger is a two-level drag mecca that feels like a gay house party where the host is seven feet tall and lip-syncing to Rihanna.

📍 The loudest spot on Soi 4

🍸 Cheap drinks, big wigs. Get into it.

Must-Visit Cultural or Artistic Spot

Because even gay tourists need a break from sweating through their mesh tanks. Take a break and get cultured with these must-see spots.

Bangkok Art and Culture Centre (BACC)

Modern art museum. Quiet atrium. Occasional LGBTQ+ exhibits. A perfect cool-down between bar crawls, BACC has rotating contemporary art shows, gift shops by indie Thai designers, and air-con that feels like a religious experience.

📍 BTS: National Stadium — directly connected

🖼️ Pop in for the art, stay for the coffee, recover from the night before.

Kamavijitra Erotic Art Museum

If the Louvre had a horny cousin, it would be this. Kamavijitra is Thailand’s first erotic art museum, with four floors of sculpture, sex-positive history, and ancient pottery that somehow makes you feel things.

📍 Sukhumvit (location sometimes rotates — check social)

🍆 Adults only (18+). Open your mind… and maybe Grindr.

Wat Phra Sri Maha Uma Devi (Wat Khaek)

A riot of color in the middle of Silom’s skyscrapers. This Hindu temple, built by Tamil immigrants, is stunning year-round, but truly goes off during October’s Navaratri festival — think flower garlands and street processions.

📍 Silom Road, near Sala Daeng BTS and Bang Rak

🕉️ Modest dress required. Spiritual fulfillment not guaranteed, but the photo ops? Heavenly.

Favorite Queer-Friendly Gym or Workout Spot

Get sweaty now, so you don’t have to turn the lights off later.

Lumphini Park – Silom/Bang Rak

Your morning-after salvation. Bangkok’s version of Central Park has a free outdoor gym, tai chi at sunrise, shirtless joggers by sunset, and enough greenery to make you forget last night’s tequila.

📍 Between BTS Sala Daeng & MRT Lumphini

🦎 Come for the run, stay for the monitor lizards. (Yes, really.)

Virgin Active – Empire Tower, Sathorn

The luxury gym experience. Heated pools, Himalayan salt rooms, rooftop treadmills, and the occasional hot expat doing burpees.

📍 Empire Tower near Chong Nonsi BTS

🏋️ Day passes available. Bring your water bottle and your thirst.

Fitness First Platinum – Siam Paragon & Q House Lumpini

Two popular locations with gay locals and travelers alike. One’s in a shopping mall, the other’s near Lumphini. Both offer saunas, group classes, and just enough eye candy to get through leg day.

📍 Siam Paragon & Q House Lumpini (BTS Siam or MRT Lumphini)

🔥 Not a gay bathhouse, but the glances in the mirror say otherwise.

Hidden Gem or Lesser-Known Spot You Need to Check Out

Here’s where the real stories begin. Off-map, under-lit, and full of strange magic.

Saladrank Cafe – Sala Daeng Soi 1

By day: café. By night: post-bar hideout for bartenders, drag queens, and people who are somehow still vertical at 4 a.m. It’s like Cheers, but queerer and messier.

📍 Down a side soi near Soi 4 — check Google Maps

🍸 Order something random. Sit near the DJ.

White Rabbit Lounge – Silom Road

Part bar, part fantasyland, part fever dream. This multi-level wonderland serves cocktails, vintage vibes, and theme nights where anything goes.

📍 Between Sala Daeng & Silom stations (MRT/BTS)

🐇 Follow the rabbit. Take a selfie. Fall in love with someone playing Britney on vinyl.

Pickle BKK – Pan Road, Bang Rak

A listening bar for people who like their flirting set to lo-fi 90s R&B. Chill, queer-friendly, and full of soft lighting and strong drinks, Pickle feels like drinking in someone’s living room — someone hot.

📍 Pan Road, near Sri Maha Mariamman Temple

🥒 Try the pickleback. Stay for the soundtrack. Leave with a story.

Best Place for a Cruisy or Flirty Moment

You’re not here to play games… unless they involve eye contact and poor decisions.

Silom Soi 4 Sidewalk Tables

Just sit. Order a drink. Look around. Someone will flirt with you. That’s how this works. From Banana Bar to Balcony, this is the flirtiest 50 meters in Bangkok.

📍 Silom Soi 4 (you can’t miss it)

🥂 Be bold. Smile. Then let the street do the rest.

Gay Saunas – R3, Chakran, 39 Underground

R3: Silom’s towel-clad party. Chakran: Ari’s multi-story onsen maze. 39 Underground: cosplay, roleplay, choose-your-own-adventure gay sauna. Bangkok has options. And dark rooms.

📍 Silom, Ari, and Sathorn (depending on your flavor)

🧖‍♂️ Check their theme nights. Bring ID. Be polite. And hydrated.

Patpong Go-Go Bars – Surawong / Patpong Soi 2

The neon-lit heart of Bangkok’s red-light district. Expect shirtless boys, choreographed striptease, and some very persuasive performers.

📍 Patpong Soi 2, off Surawong

💸 Tip well. Smile often. And remember: what happens in Patpong…

Final Thoughts

Bangkok is truly in a world of its own. A place where you can sip street cocktails on Soi 4, dance until sunrise at a gay club, tour a buddhist temple in a crop top, and somehow end up at a rooftop pool by noon.

So pack light. Hydrate heavily. Say hi to the drag queen in the elevator. And remember: in Thailand, everyone’s welcome.

Grindr has teamed up with Preparation H and the National LGBT Cancer Network to launch Between the Cheeks—a new digital content hub dedicated to anal health education for gay, bi, and trans people.

It’s exactly what it sounds like: a fun and informative content hub that tells the truth about your behind. Hemorrhoids? Covered. Colorectal cancer screenings? Absolutely. Where to find a doctor who won’t flinch when you say, “I’ve got some discomfort down there”? We’ve got that too.

What is Between the Cheeks?

It’s a centralized resource made for our community by people who get our community. That means:

• Clear, no-BS info about hemorrhoids, itching, pain, and other backdoor dilemmas
• A provider locator tool to help you find LGBTQ+-affirming healthcare pros
• Resources on colorectal cancer screening and what to expect
• Honest, sex-positive education—with zero shame and zero fluff

Why This? Why Now?

Because we deserve to talk about our bodies—including the parts we sit on—without embarrassment. Because health systems aren’t always built for us. And because being proactive about your butt doesn’t mean you have to stop being a power bottom.

Who’s Behind It?

This is a three-way partnership (our favorite kind) between:

• Grindr, the Global Gayborhood in Your Pocket
• Preparation H, the #1 Dr. Recommended hemorrhoid brand for relief 
• And the National LGBT Cancer Network, leaders in health equity and cancer prevention for queer folks

Where to Go

You can visit the hub right now: Between the Cheeks

Bookmark it. Share it. Text it to the friend who’s “been sitting weird all week.”

Because our health matters—including anal health. And it’s time we talked about it.

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This week’s episode, “Ending HIV: Science, Stigma, and Solutions”, spotlights amfAR, The Foundation for AIDS Research, which is one of the world’s leading nonprofit organizations dedicated to the support of AIDS research, HIV prevention, treatment education, and advocacy. Since 1985, amfAR has raised nearly $900 million in support of its programs and has awarded more than 3,800 grants to research teams worldwide.

In this episode, we sat down with Kevin Robert Frost, CEO of amfAR, to better understand what it actually means to “cure” HIV, why stem cell breakthroughs aren’t scalable (yet), and what it’ll take to close the gap between what’s scientifically possible and what’s equitably available.

Below is a bonus interview with Kevin that takes you deeper into the conversation.

Why did amfAR decide to focus so heavily on finding a cure?

“About a little more than 15 years ago, we made the decision to put most of our resources behind finding a cure. We believed that the science had developed to the point where this was possible. Of course, if you go back 15 years ago, ‘cure’ at that time was considered a four-letter word in the scientific community. People didn’t use the cure word. But we felt very strongly that if we didn’t talk about where we wanted to go, we’d probably never get there.”

What are the common threads across the seven people we now say have been cured?

“All seven people who were cured had stem cell transplants, but we’re not entirely sure that it’s the transplant itself that cured them. These are very complex cases, and several of the transplants were done in slightly different ways. At least one of the cures was done with a donor who didn’t have the CCR5 mutation, which had been a key factor we thought was required. That opens up a whole new pathway of thinking about what may be possible in the context of cure. We’re now seeing that it might not be the CCR5 mutation—or even the transplant alone—but possibly something like graft-versus-host disease playing a critical role.”

What makes stem cell transplants too risky to scale?

“Stem cell transplants are a very complex and often dangerous procedure that’s mostly intended for people with cancer. For people living with HIV, the risks associated with stem cell transplants often outweigh the potential benefits. You’re talking about significant mortality risks and complications that would be unacceptable for the general population. That’s why we say these aren’t scalable solutions. The goal now is to understand what made those seven cures work and find safer, simpler ways to replicate the outcome.”

So what is amfAR actually funding right now in terms of cure research?

“There are two major schools of thought around curing people with HIV. One is the ‘shock and kill’ approach, where you’re trying to reactivate the virus in reservoirs so it can be destroyed. The other is gene therapy, which is really where our focus is right now. That includes gene editing tools like CRISPR, but also approaches that try to mimic the CCR5 mutation and basically ‘close the door’ that HIV uses to enter cells. We believe gene therapy holds the most promise for a scalable cure—not just for people who happen to have the right genetic match or the right clinical scenario.”

Why is it so difficult to declare someone “cured” of HIV?

“You can’t prove the absence of something. Even in the seven cases widely accepted as cured, we can’t say with 100 percent confidence that they have no HIV left in their bodies. What we do is follow them over time. If there’s no evidence of viral replication and no virus shows up in biopsies after, say, 18 months off treatment, we become more confident. But it’s not like flipping a switch—there’s no biomarker yet that tells us when someone’s definitely cured.”

What’s standing in the way of long-acting injectables like Apretude reaching more people?

“I’m tremendously frustrated at our collective inability to deliver Apretude to the people who need it most. Insurance companies and pharmaceutical companies are standing in the way, and I don’t think we've done a very good job on the rollout. There’s also a tremendous amount of back-office work required at clinics—approvals, testing, regulations—that make it even harder to prescribe. Some clinics have just stopped offering it entirely. I think if you talked to anyone about Apretude, they’d tell you that it's far underperformed what they thought it would do once it became available.”

So what gives you hope?

“I don’t believe you’re ever going to wake up one day and see a headline in The New York Times that says ‘Cure for AIDS Found.’ Research rarely works that way. What I’ve always said is that there will be three phases: first, we cure some of the people some of the time; then, more of the people more of the time; and eventually, most of the people most of the time. That’s how progress happens. It’s incremental, but it’s real.”

How can platforms like Grindr help in this effort?

“A site like Grindr could serve as an early warning system. Let’s say there’s a rise in HIV cases in Tennessee—Grindr could push a targeted message to users there saying, ‘Here’s what we’re seeing, here’s how to protect yourself.’ It doesn’t have to be complicated. It just has to be clear and localized. The power to reach people where they are—that’s what makes platforms like this so important in the fight.”

If you could tell the world one thing about HIV, what would it be?

“It’s just a virus. And what I mean by that is, HIV stigma so often gets wrapped up in the behaviors that lead to infection—especially sex. But who cares? If it was sex, so what? People shouldn’t be stigmatized because they had sex.”

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Trust and authenticity are essential when connecting with others online. At Grindr, we understand how important it is for you to know that the person you’re chatting with is just that—the person you’re chatting with—and that the photos you see are real and recent.

To enhance your experience and peace of mind, we’re excited to introduce “Taken on Grindr,” a new feature that lets you add a watermark and timestamp to photos taken using  Grindr’s in-app camera. This feature instantly shows that a photo was captured through the Grindr app and how recently it was taken, helping give you greater confidence in your connections.

How It Works

When you take a picture using Grindr’s in-app camera and choose to enable the Taken on Grindr feature, the photo will display a small Grindr badge or label along with a timestamp showing when it was taken (for example, “Taken on Grindr – just now” or “Taken on Grindr – 2 days ago”). This badge is visible to anyone who views the photo in your profile or chat.

The best part? You’re in control. Want the watermark on? Turn it on. Prefer to keep it off? That’s your call. Grindr only adds the stamp when you choose to use it.

Key Benefits

By introducing “Taken on Grindr,” we aim to empower you with new tools to connect confidently and authentically:

• On Your Terms: The optional badge and timestamp indicate a photo was taken in-app, letting you share with added clarity.
• Flexible: Turn the watermark off at any time—no strings attached.
• Transparency Without Pressure: Use it to highlight your photos’ freshness or skip it and share as usual.

How to Use It

Using “Taken on Grindr” is quick and easy. Here’s how to use it:

1. Update Your App: Ensure you have the latest version of Grindr installed, where “Taken on Grindr” is available.
2. Open the In-App Camera: Launch Grindr and go to a chat conversation (or your profile editing screen if you want to add a new profile photo). Tap the camera icon to open Grindr’s built-in camera.
3. Take Your Photo: With the in-app camera open, capture your photo as you normally would. Try to keep it clear and well-lit, just like any photo you’d want to share.
4. Enable the Watermark (Optional): In the camera screen, you’ll see an option to turn on the “Taken on Grindr” watermark and timestamp. Make sure this option is enabled if you wish to use it.
5. Send or Save the Photo: If you’re in a chat, hit send to share the photo with your conversation partner. If you’re updating your profile, save the photo to your profile. The image will automatically display the “Taken on Grindr” badge and the time it was taken.
6. Verify at a Glance: Once sent or posted, your photo will appear with the watermark and timestamp visible. Anyone viewing it can immediately see that it was taken in-app and learn how recently it was taken, confirming its authenticity.

‍Try “Taken on Grindr” Today

“Taken on Grindr” is available now, and we encourage you to take advantage of it to support a safe, authentic Grindr experience. We’re confident that “Taken on Grindr” will make it easier for you to connect with others.

Ready to get started? Update your Grindr app to the latest version and give “Taken on Grindr” a try today.

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Rejection remains a tricky little thing. Yes, age softens its sting, and sure, you’ve learned to manage it—maybe even appreciate how it nudges you toward the right partner. You’ve done the therapy, the journaling, The Work. But then, one day, the guy you were seeing decides you’re not for him. And just like that, you’re 19 again, ripped open and hollowed out, convinced you’ll die unchosen because this one boy doesn’t like you back.

You think to yourself: how will I ever get over this?

Don’t Hide… Get On the Grid

So what’s the first step toward healing? Open Grindr, hon. Yes, it might feel horrific to imagine talking to—or touching—another boy right now, but trust me: tapping that little gold mask is exactly what you need to remind yourself there’s a bigger world beyond your heartache.

Sure, you might still be in fetal position, numb, wondering how you’ll ever heal. That’s okay; start small. Simply open the app and take it in, babe. Observe what’s changed: maybe your upstairs neighbor’s been hitting the gym, your former FWB frosted their tips (we’ll look past it), or your gym crush is suddenly a published author.

Every little update affirms that our queer landscape is constantly evolving, which means you can evolve right along with it. Isolation and hopelessness start to crack the second you see proof of life—new photos, style choices, career pivots. Change is what? A constant.

Start Small (Or Big! Size–At Last–Doesn’t Matter!)

Keep scrolling until—oh. You spot him: one half of that “perfect” couple you’ve always envied. Did they…? You check the profile: single. They did! You’re not exactly friends, but you’ve known each other socially for years, so you reach out. Before long, you’re commiserating the house down.

Suddenly, your own rejection feels less catastrophic. After chatting with someone who’s right there in the void with you, you sense your perspective shifting, and the weight on your chest eases. Heartbreak is everywhere—and that helps.

You do this for a few days, a few weeks, maybe even a few months. Sometimes it’s fulfilling, sometimes it’s not. Then one afternoon, you pause, suddenly aware that you’ve stood up from bed—perhaps even gone on a quick walk—without the familiar weight of his rejection dragging you down.

While everyone’s Grindr experience looks different, these small moments of connection add up. Each connection has the potential to tease you out of heartbreak purgatory and remind you there’s an entire world of people ready to welcome you back.

All of this, whether quickly or cumulatively, starts to dismantle any “I’ve gone through the entire dating pool already” nonsense. Seeing new faces reframes your ex from “the only good option left on Earth” to “one among many.” Because trust: they really are just one among many.

A New Diva Enters the Grid

One day, a picture stops your scroll: six-foot, dark curls flopping about, a baby face peeking out from a cropped rugby. His bio? “I’m not like the other girls…” You’re smitten, but your thumb hovers a second too long over that chat button, bracing for the sting of an unanswered “Hey.” Maybe you star his profile, deciding to mull it over—and then, buzz buzz. That’s right, diva: he messaged you first.

Suddenly your best quips flow—effortless, uncensored, that special brand of humor only raw emotional exhaustion can bring. And then, there it is: “What are you up to on Sunday?”

Sure, it may feel like you’re jumping in too fast, especially if your wounds are still fresh. But guess what: you two just kept up a stupid bit about Enron for a dozen messages, so you’ve just proven that there is another boy out there capable of matching your freak.

Even if you discover you’re not exactly ready to dive headlong into something new, simply sitting across from someone who isn’t the man who hurt you can do wonders for that battered heart. And hey, science more or less confirms it: new connections—no matter how casual—nudge your brain away from its old, heartache-soaked patterns.

Wait… Am I… Healing?

Look at you now—scrolling, chatting, possibly setting a Sunday lunch date! Even if this journey looks different for everyone (note: it usually does), it proves the point: healing can start right here, via the glass and aluminum brick in your hand.

Community, in all its forms, is what pulls you out of the abyss of heartbreak. It can—and will—piece you back together, one shared experience or new spark at a time. To heal is to remember that you are still part of something bigger than your grief – so go on, get on the grid, and let the world remind you that you’re still here, still seen, and still capable of beginning again.

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When the snow starts falling and the harnesses come out, there’s only one place in the Swiss Alps where the ski pass doubles as a flirtation strategy: Arosa. Every January, this resort town turns into a powder-covered playground for Arosa Gay Ski Week, drawing thousands of queer travelers for seven days of ski, sweat, and everything in between.

To cut through the tourist fluff, Grindr went straight to the source—asking real Grindr users in Arosa where they eat, drink, dance, and recover. The result? A hyper-local, highly-horny travel guide built for gay, lesbian, and queer folks who don’t just want inclusive—they want explicitly welcoming.

Watch the Episode

Grindr hit the slopes (and the saunas) for a full episode of Grindr Presents: Host or Travel? filmed during Arosa Gay Ski Week. Get the receipts on who’s hosting, who’s traveling, and which hotel has the best views—inside and out.

Whether you’re chasing a hookup, a fondue, or just some post-spa eye contact that turns into a second apartment key, here’s where to go, what to order, and why Arosa should be high on your winter list.

Bars & Clubs in Arosa

Arosa isn’t overrun with nightlife—but what it does have is tight, walkable, and reliably full of gay men, lesbian ski crews, and people with stamina. The rule: drink, dance, don’t overthink it.

Panorama Bar @ Kursaal

A daytime café with mountain views, by sundown it becomes a soft-landing for the post-ski crowd. Located in the Kursaal complex (epicenter of Gay Ski Week), Panorama pulls in locals and out-of-towners with après-ski drinks and a prime view of the Weisshorn. Comfy, casual, and openly queer-friendly.

Wunderbar

Equal parts cocktail bar and café, Wunderbar handles the shift from espresso to gin with no awkwardness. The décor walks the line between rustic and sleek. You’ll see skiers still in their gear, flirty expats swapping pass info, and maybe a quiet three-way forming over the G&T menu. Relaxed, but never boring.

Disco Wandelbar

When the only decision left is “top floor or bottom floor,” head to Wandelbar. It’s the only true nightclub in Arosa, and during Gay Ski Week it becomes the gravity well for every party in town. Drag DJs, sweaty dance floors, and fog machines that don’t quit. Doors stay open until 4 AM—so pace yourself, or don’t.

Restaurants in Arosa

Fuel up, make eyes across the table, or just inhale cheese like it’s a kink. These spots hit the cuisine spectrum from fondue-slicked nostalgia to sleek, mountain-sourced indulgence.

aifach

One menu. No choices. Just sit down and let it happen. aifach serves a surprise multi-course dinner each night with local ingredients and zero fuss. Communal tables mean you’re guaranteed company—and probably a new crush before dessert.

Güterschuppen

Set in a former railway depot, this lively tavern balances industrial vibes with alpine comfort food. Char-grilled meats, melted cheese, loud tables. Great for groups, better for post-ski carb loading. Feels like a frat house, smells like a fondue orgy.

Hörnlihütte

A mountain hut perched above town and reachable by lift or long ski descent. During ski week, its terrace becomes a queer sun trap: skiers sprawled on loungers, schnapps in hand, lips sunburned from either weather or making out. They serve rösti, sausages, and other Swiss standards with a side of breathtaking scenery.

Hotels in Arosa

When the lifts stop and the blackout curtains close, you’ll want accommodation that gets it. Arosa delivers—whether you want a luxe spa, a social lobby, or just soundproofing between you and the guy you met at Wandelbar.

Hotel Seehof

Overlooking the lake, Seehof is pure chalet luxury with central location and a flexible attitude about who’s sharing which bed. The restaurant serves hearty Swiss cuisine, and the lounge is perfect for collapsing after a long day on the slopes (or in someone else’s bed).

Hotel Aves

This self-check-in hotel opened in 2022 and immediately became a go-to for younger ski week crowds—it's budget-friendly without screaming hostel. Expect Scandi aesthetics, a lively restaurant, and tech-forward rooms with views. Bonus: plenty of apartments for group stays or long weekends that stretch past your return flight.

Valsana Hotel & Spa

Eco-minded but not smug about it. This hotel features a sleek spa, indoor pool, sauna, and the on-site Twist bar/restaurant for clean eating and dirty martinis. LGBTQ-inclusive, with design-forward rooms and balconies overlooking the alpine landscape. A little wellness, a little filth—just the right ratio.

Tschuggen Grand Hotel

If you’re going full diva, go here. Five stars, private mountain railway, and a spa built into the hillside like a Bond villain’s wet dream. Rooms are all panoramic views, plush linens, and soundproof bliss. During ski week, this is HQ for the high-budget crowd—complete with Champagne breakfasts and invite-only tub sessions.

The Bottom Line

Arosa Gay Ski Week may be the anchor, but Arosa isn’t a one-week wonder. It’s a queer-friendly resort built for pleasure, no matter the season. Between the freeride terrain, drag ski races, snow-capped backdrops, and après-ski shenanigans, there’s no shortage of stimulation.

Visit in January for the full festival lineup, or book off-season for chill vibes, affordable pass deals, and easier hotel availability. Just don’t come expecting discretion—Arosa doesn’t do half-hearted. It’s sex-positive, slope-ready, and fully loaded with gay energy.

Pack your harness and your SPF. This Swiss resort knows how to host a party—and it’s not waiting for you to catch up.

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Some people say there’s no overlap between teaching high school English and safeguarding user privacy, but Kelly Peterson's career proves otherwise. After nearly a decade in the classroom—teaching advanced placement English, serving as department chair, and juggling basketball and tennis coaching—she stepped out of education and right into the world of privacy and compliance.

We caught up with Kelly, Grindr's Chief Privacy Officer, to talk about how she went from wrangling high schoolers to collaborating with engineers, product managers, marketers, and everyone in between, all to ensure your data is protected while you connect.

How did your journey to Grindr begin?

"I actually started my career as a high school English teacher and taught for nine years. Teaching is, hands down, the hardest job I’ve ever had. You have to take dense material, break it down, and make it engaging—especially for students who might not have any inherent interest in the topic.

Eventually, I got burned out. Like many educators, I wanted a change but still cared deeply about using my skills in a meaningful way. That role led me straight into privacy work. It felt like the perfect fit—I love the ethics and user advocacy side of it.

When the chance to join Grindr first came along, I was intrigued—especially as a bisexual woman from the Midwest. Once you’ve experienced a place where you can be your full authentic self, it’s hard to find that elsewhere. So here I am!"

How does being a former teacher shape your approach to privacy?

"Teaching is all about empathy and what we now call “user-centric” thinking. In education, you have to consider every student’s background, learning style, or even whether they’ve had breakfast that day.

It’s the same with privacy. If I’m drafting a privacy policy or designing consent flows, I’m asking: “How will our users interpret this? Does it speak to different levels of tech-savviness? Are we meeting them where they are?” Regulatory language can be dense—just like Shakespeare to a reluctant high schooler. My job is to take that dryness and make it click for our users, stakeholders, and the rest of the company."

Walk us through a “typical” day in your role.

"Honestly, there’s no true typical day at Grindr, which is one of the reasons I love it. I could be working with engineers to build privacy-by-design into a new feature, collaborating with outside counsel on changing regulations, or planning employee trainings so everyone at Grindr stays up to speed.

The constant is cross-functional collaboration. Privacy touches almost every department—product, engineering, marketing, ads, IT, you name it. I joke that we’re like a neural network for the organization. Privacy can’t be this stuffy, backroom function; it has to be embedded in how we build features and engage users. That’s the goal every day."

What’s a recent project or accomplishment you’re especially proud of?

"Our AI consents rollout stands out. Rather than only meeting the bare-minimum legal requirements (like applying certain consent flows only in specific regions), we went global with it. Wherever you are, we made sure you have clear choices around how your data is used for AI-powered features. Sensitive data, for instance, requires an explicit opt-in. We tried to be super transparent, user-friendly, and thoughtful. As a result, our engineering and product teams can now build AI-driven experiences that truly enhance the app—while giving users real control over their data."

How do you handle user feedback—especially when it’s not so positive?

"I think anecdotes are powerful. Sure, you see the loudest complaints on Reddit or X (Twitter), but there’s always some truth in that frustration. The key is to weigh the overall sentiment. If we roll out something new, I’ll dig through the threads to see what’s confusing people, how they interpret it, and whether we can improve communication or design next time.

It’s similar to teaching—if one student is checked out, why didn’t that lesson resonate? How can I adjust? Negative feedback can feel harsh, but it’s a chance to refine what we’re doing. At the same time, I don’t lose sight of the bigger picture: some people do appreciate the updates; they’re just less vocal about it."

You’ve mentioned you actively use Grindr yourself. Can you tell us more?

"Yes, I have a Grindr account for both work and pleasure. That can raise eyebrows, but it’s all about transparency. My profile clearly says I work at Grindr—I’m not here to snoop or do anything shady. It’s actually been a great way to connect with users directly. People DM me about privacy questions or concerns, and I can share blog posts, resources, or just chat about what we’re doing behind the scenes. And because I’m also a user, the privacy policy we create applies to me, too. I’m fully invested in making sure it’s robust and truly respectful of people’s data."

What’s your favorite part of working at Grindr?

"Two main things: the mission and the people. Grindr serves a broad spectrum of the LGBTQ+ community and beyond, and I love that we’re not just a “hookup app”—we’re a connection platform. My work actively supports the safety and well-being of that community.

Secondly, the culture here is incredible. I’ve developed some of my closest friendships at Grindr. Being able to be 100% myself—a bisexual woman from the Midwest, an absolute cookie-baking fiend, and a passionate privacy person—is a kind of freedom I can’t take for granted."

What do you want people to know most about the work you do?

"I want people to know there are real humans behind our privacy features—humans who care deeply about data protection, safety, and user empowerment. All the best elements of Grindr happen because we prioritize privacy, not in spite of it."

Lightning Round

What song are you currently obsessed with?

I know it's not new, but... "Backing It Up by Pardison Fontaine featuring Cardi B. It’s my anthem right now."

If you had to pick a drag name, what would it be?

"Rita Book (homage to my teacher days)."

Office must-have?

"Sticky notes. I’m forever scribbling reminders and ideas."

Hidden talent?

"I’m basically “Suzy Homemaker” with a love for crafts and baking—especially Italian cookies. Over the holidays, my mom and I go into baking overdrive and make 18 to 20 different kinds."

What’s one Grindr feature you love?

"I’m a huge fan of Private Albums. They let you share more selectively and keep things on your own terms."

Most memorable Grindr moment?

"My first day on the job—it was literally the morning after the company Pride pool party. I showed up “fashionably late” and was still the first one there. Nothing beats day-one nerves like go-go dancers and mermaid floats."

Give us a meme describes working here Grindr.

Roast yourself in one sentence.

"I’m completely incapable of talking without using my hands. If you pinned them down, I’d probably lose my ability to speak altogether. It’s the Italian in me—I can’t help it!"

Who’s your “work spouse”?

"I’m in a polycule! My go-tos are Bill Shafton from Legal, Lauren Bade on my team, Matt Shancer, Head of Data Engineering. They’re the first ones I run to with questions and ideas."