How Do You Mend a Broken Gay Heart? Get On Grindr, Babe

To heal is to remember that you are still part of something bigger than your grief – so go on, get on the grid, and let the world remind you that you’re still here, still seen, and still capable of beginning again.
Tyler Cunningham
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April 4, 2025
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Rejection remains a tricky little thing. Yes, age softens its sting, and sure, you’ve learned to manage it—maybe even appreciate how it nudges you toward the right partner. You’ve done the therapy, the journaling, The Work. But then, one day, the guy you were seeing decides you’re not for him. And just like that, you’re 19 again, ripped open and hollowed out, convinced you’ll die unchosen because this one boy doesn’t like you back.

You think to yourself: how will I ever get over this?

Don’t Hide… Get On the Grid

So what’s the first step toward healing? Open Grindr, hon. Yes, it might feel horrific to imagine talking to—or touching—another boy right now, but trust me: tapping that little gold mask is exactly what you need to remind yourself there’s a bigger world beyond your heartache.

Sure, you might still be in fetal position, numb, wondering how you’ll ever heal. That’s okay; start small. Simply open the app and take it in, babe. Observe what’s changed: maybe your upstairs neighbor’s been hitting the gym, your former FWB frosted their tips (we’ll look past it), or your gym crush is suddenly a published author.

Every little update affirms that our queer landscape is constantly evolving, which means you can evolve right along with it. Isolation and hopelessness start to crack the second you see proof of life—new photos, style choices, career pivots. Change is what? A constant.

Start Small (Or Big! Size–At Last–Doesn’t Matter!)

Keep scrolling until—oh. You spot him: one half of that “perfect” couple you’ve always envied. Did they…? You check the profile: single. They did! You’re not exactly friends, but you’ve known each other socially for years, so you reach out. Before long, you’re commiserating the house down.

Suddenly, your own rejection feels less catastrophic. After chatting with someone who’s right there in the void with you, you sense your perspective shifting, and the weight on your chest eases. Heartbreak is everywhere—and that helps.

You do this for a few days, a few weeks, maybe even a few months. Sometimes it’s fulfilling, sometimes it’s not. Then one afternoon, you pause, suddenly aware that you’ve stood up from bed—perhaps even gone on a quick walk—without the familiar weight of his rejection dragging you down.

While everyone’s Grindr experience looks different, these small moments of connection add up. Each connection has the potential to tease you out of heartbreak purgatory and remind you there’s an entire world of people ready to welcome you back.

All of this, whether quickly or cumulatively, starts to dismantle any “I’ve gone through the entire dating pool already” nonsense. Seeing new faces reframes your ex from “the only good option left on Earth” to “one among many.” Because trust: they really are just one among many.

A New Diva Enters the Grid

One day, a picture stops your scroll: six-foot, dark curls flopping about, a baby face peeking out from a cropped rugby. His bio? “I’m not like the other girls…” You’re smitten, but your thumb hovers a second too long over that chat button, bracing for the sting of an unanswered “Hey.” Maybe you star his profile, deciding to mull it over—and then, buzz buzz. That’s right, diva: he messaged you first.

Suddenly your best quips flow—effortless, uncensored, that special brand of humor only raw emotional exhaustion can bring. And then, there it is: “What are you up to on Sunday?”

Sure, it may feel like you’re jumping in too fast, especially if your wounds are still fresh. But guess what: you two just kept up a stupid bit about Enron for a dozen messages, so you’ve just proven that there is another boy out there capable of matching your freak.

Even if you discover you’re not exactly ready to dive headlong into something new, simply sitting across from someone who isn’t the man who hurt you can do wonders for that battered heart. And hey, science more or less confirms it: new connections—no matter how casual—nudge your brain away from its old, heartache-soaked patterns.

Wait… Am I… Healing?

Look at you now—scrolling, chatting, possibly setting a Sunday lunch date! Even if this journey looks different for everyone (note: it usually does), it proves the point: healing can start right here, via the glass and aluminum brick in your hand.

Community, in all its forms, is what pulls you out of the abyss of heartbreak. It can—and will—piece you back together, one shared experience or new spark at a time. To heal is to remember that you are still part of something bigger than your grief – so go on, get on the grid, and let the world remind you that you’re still here, still seen, and still capable of beginning again.

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