Dear Dad

How do I explain my open relationship to my parents?

—Sharing is caring

Dear Sharing,

Once, in my early 20’s, my mother and I got a bit sloshed at dinner while my father was out of town. We talked about the usual: taxes, politics, “Golden Girls.” Eventually, we got drunk enough to discuss sex. After her fourth glass, my mother revealed that my father loved to get spanked during foreplay. It was weird to hear, but sort of reassuring that even my straight-as-an-arrow father had a kinky side. Because she was vulnerable enough to share his sexual proclivity with me, I thought it would only be polite to do the same. I told her about how I liked wearing nipple clamps during sex. After I divulged this intimate detail my mother took a long gulp of wine, focused her gaze, and then spat out, “I was in labor for 17 hours with you…do I really need to hear this shit?” To put it plainly, a little social lubricant can help with certain penetrating truths, even if they hurt a bit.

My bf and I are open, but I’m not sure if we should tell each other about guys we sleep with?

—Feeling sneaky

Sneaky,

You cannot survive an open relationship without open communication. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you need to share every sticky, salty detail about every guy you sleep with—not at all. But you do need to be on the same page about what you share and what you don’t. Figure out what level of disclosure works for you both, and run with it. Once you have clear ground rules for what you expect each other to share, it’s as simple as honoring that agreement. As for my personal preference, I like it best when you cc: your partner without having to direct message.

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I don’t want an open relationship, but he does. What do I do?

—Three’s a crowd

Hey Crowded,

Red alert, son. Run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. You will not change that man, you will only ruin your own peace of mind by entering into a relationship you’re not actually comfortable with. Next!

Hooked up with an open couple and now they want me to be their third. But I only like one…

—Throuple threat

Throuple Threat,

You in danger, girl. What do you expect will happen when the one you’re not interested in susses out that you only like his man? I’m all for open relationships, and I have nothing but awe and respect for those who choose to have a third, but do you really want to put yourself in a position where you have to pretend to like someone? Both parties deserve better than that. Let’s just consider it a one time thing for now and should they ever break up, go ahead and hit up the one you like.

Are open relationships the only way two gay men can stay together for a long time?

—Open 24/7

Dear 24/7,

You know how dogs can hang out together all day and go to bed and wake up and then hang out some more? And you know how cats can disappear for two weeks and come back and purr on you and then ignore you for the rest of the day? Those are two equally valid ways of loving in the world—both authentic to the respective animal. I’ve seen monogamous gay couples and non-monogamous gay couples and some have failed and some have succeeded, and as far as I’ve seen no one has figured out the magical formula for how or why. All you can do is trust your needs and desires. Tell the world what it is that you want and then go for it. There are other queer people out there who’re looking for the exact same thing as you, but first you have to know for yourself what it is that you seek.

Pabllo Vittar is an icon’s icon: a world-renowned drag queen, pop star, and fashion disruptor who also happens to be the most-followed drag queen on Instagram (more than Mother Ru!). Already a household name in her native Brazil, Vittar has served up looks in Vogue, crossed tongues with Diplo, and, oh yes, is the first drag queen ever nominated for a Latin Grammy.

Their meteoric rise in the pop music scene might suggest an overnight sensation, but Vittar’s been crafting their own unique brand of polished pop and drag performance for some time. They’d already been performing in Brazilian beauty contests, bars, and parades for years when, in 2014, their now-legendary cover of Whitney Houston’s “I Have Nothing” debuted on Brazilian television and announced Vittar as a singular talent. The rest, as they say, is herstory.

Since then their career has exploded globally: Vittar has released two massive albums and a major ep; collaborated with Diplo, Charli XCX, Major Lazer, and Anitta; performed at Coachella; and surpassed one billion views on Youtube.

We sat down with Vittar as part of BLOOP’s High Tea series, which profiles LGBTQ+ celebrities, leaders, and iconoclasts from around the world in an authentic, fun, and sex-positive setting. Dig in below to find out about the softness of Diplo’s tongue, how to get Vittar’s attention on Grindr, and more.

Who are your fashion icons?

My fashion icons are my friends; I like watching people walking down the street. I don’t think fashion has to be this grandiose thing, it’s about taking what you already have and expressing yourself.

You’ve already worked with Charli XCX, but what other pop artist working today would you like to collaborate with?

You.

I’ll harmonize on an album, don’t test me.

Ha! I’d love to do more stuff with Charli XCX, I love her, and I’m always doing things with Diplo, he’s on my second album. I really love Rosalía, would love to do a feature with her. I just saw her show in Mexico, she’s incredible.

What are you listening to right now?

I really like BLACKPINK.

Do you have any makeup or grooming tips for Grindr users?      

Whenever you’re getting ready to meet your Grindr hookups make sure you put moisturizer on, some chapstick. Make sure your lips are nice and fresh for your boy.

What was it like to kiss Diplo?

Every time someone asks me that I get goosebumps because it was so incredible. I want everyone to hear this: his tongue was the softest tongue I’ve ever felt.

Who is your current celebrity crush?

I have a big crush on Bad Bunny, he’s very much my type of man: tall, paints his nails.

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I almost painted my nails today, big mistake.

Huge.

What’s the best way to get your attention on Grindr?

I definitely need a face pic, because when you go to meet someone you’re not going to meet just a torso.

Do you have a memorable Grindr story for us?

One time I met up with a flight attendant.

On the plane?

No! He was staying at the same hotel as me and I went down to his room, and he ended up being a superfan. It was cool, I like the recognition, but I really just wanted to kiss someone.

Where does one find you on a Saturday night?

I’ll probably be at home playing video games or at the club with my friends.

You hit one billion views on Youtube recently, how does that feel?

I feel good and happy. I want to continue to achieve my goals, I’ve got a lot more dreams. It’s something that makes me happy and makes my fans happy. Look how far I’ve come from the northeast of Brazil.

What does “Pride” mean to you?

Pride’s more than a word for me. It’s who you are, it’s what you believe in, and what you’ll fight for regardless of who’s watching.

What’s next for Pabllo Vittar?

Like my album says,“Não Para Não”, I won’t stop— I’ve got a lot more coming.

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Dear Grindr Community,

At Grindr, we’re all about connection—whether it’s a spark, a scroll, or something a little more… hands-on. But in a world obsessed with optimizing every aspect of life—from your sleep score to your gut microbiome—there’s one nutrient-rich resource that’s been scandalously overlooked. That’s right, we’re talking about cum.‍

Today, we’re hosting the world’s first Nutritional Load Label¹— a Grindr Blog exclusive that finally puts the vitamins, minerals, and precious protein of your favorite milk substitute under the microscope. Forget potatoes, protein bars, and kale smoothies. 2025 demands more. It’s time to log your daily intake of the world’s most unexpected nutrient source.

How to Use the Load Label

1. View the Load Label below.
2. Enter the Number of Loads you want to calculate.
3. View Your Results, which will show an approximate nutritional breakdown (calories, protein, etc.).

That’s all there is to it—no extra steps or details needed. Show your friends. Show your family. Show the world.

Naturally, these figures aren’t carved in stone—hydration, diet, and cosmic forces of testicular load all play a role. But we’ve compiled enough data through our research in order to give you a good idea.

Disclaimer: While the ingredients in a load are generally safe, ingesting it is not FDA-approved for nutritional purposes. But hey, before you get too adventurous, remember: practice safe sex and get tested regularly. Stay safe and savvy, babe.

Can Your Diet Handle Loads? A Checklist

Vegan — Some folks say if it’s from any animal, it’s a hard no. Others claim if it’s a consenting human, it’s basically cruelty-free—you decide, because the last thing we want to do is mess with a vegan.

Keto — Remember, every carb counts, but if you can pencil it into your 25-gram limit, you can consider it part of your daily bread (or just count is as electrolytes and move on).

Paleo — Our ancestors didn’t count macros—they just rawdogged life, ate whatever they could catch, and died at 30. If unprocessed, ancestral simplicity is your vibe, consider this the OG protein source. Farm-to-table? Back then, it was cave-to-mouth. Drink up.

Intermittent Fasting — No protein can go in your mouth before 12pm. But after that, go ahead, girl, get your fill.‍

Carnivore — Beat your meat and eat it too. With fruits and veggies off the table, a consenting partner’s contribution might be the only variety you’ve got left.

More Disclaimers

1. Not an Endorsement: We’re not telling you to replace breakfast, second breakfast, or even midnight snacks with, well, cum. Any medical professional would likely yell at us.
2. Social Repercussions: Whipping out the Interactive Load Label during a conversation about local produce might send your dinner guests scurrying. Use responsibly.
3. Evolving Science: Like any frontier, the data will evolve as more daring souls look deeper. To that we say: we’re on it. So don’t be surprised if next year’s iteration includes charts on pH levels and differing flavor profiles.