How to Be More Romantic: Simple Ways to Show Your Love
Some folks have no trouble serenading their partner with soliloquies, making panties drop faster than Juliet after drinking that old Zima she got from Friar Laurence. Sticking with the Shakespearean reference, even the classics can take a playful, kinky turn: But soft, what light through yonder window breaks? It is the East, and that hot piece of ass is the sun.
But if confessions of love don’t come naturally to you — then what?
Even the most hopeless romantic can get a creative block and feel their love stagnate. Don’t worry; we’ve got your back. We’re here to help you with romance, that you might touch that cheek. Or clap ‘em.
What is romance?
Romance is a perfect mixture of affection, passion, and sexual whimsy that makes your heart flutter for another. Although candles, massages, and moonlight walks can certainly be romantic, true romance goes further. It’s about creating a connection and reminding the other person that love isn’t just a four-letter word; it’s an action.
Romance provides a delightful reminder of why we fell in love with our person in the first place. It might look like sweet notes left on the fridge, a surprise kiss out of the blue, or even just gazing into each other’s eyes as you decide what color dildo you’re going to use tonight. Despite what size queens might have told you, the little things count, so don’t wait for big holidays or perfect moments to express your love.
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1. Know your partner’s love language
None of our other tips matter much until you know your partner’s love language. If he responds to physical touch and words of affirmation, he might appreciate a gift, but it won’t have the same effect as planning a night of romantic sex while you tell him what a good boy he is.
2. Listen actively
Listen to your partner. It sounds simple (because it is), but so many people don’t feel truly heard or understood in their relationships. Ask questions about his day and how he feels, then give him time and space to share with you. Even if you can’t do this together in the same room, sending a text where you chat and listen about something he’s dealing with is a simple way to keep the romance alive.
3. Spend time with your partner
Many couples either don’t spend enough quality time together or take it for granted when they do — a major turn-off. You probably already spend time together, but are you really present? Try leaving your phone in the other room, cuddling up with your snuggle bug, and talking about your day.
4. Prepare a meal for him
They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. We’d argue you can take a shortcut through his cock, but a delicious meal is still a pretty good way to express love to your special guy. Even if you can’t cook to save your life, take him out for dinner. It’ll still leave a sweet taste in his mouth (and maybe even a salty one once you get home).
5. Buy chocolates or flowers
Of all the romantic overtures, chocolates and flowers are among the most cliche. But they’re classic for a reason! And you don’t have to do roses and chocolates in a heart-shaped box. If you know your partner would love a succulent and some Twizzlers, that personal touch will be much appreciated.
6. Support them
Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader! Whether he’s working toward a career goal, a personal project, or just going through a tough moment, you can provide a listening ear and a tear-absorbent shoulder when they need encouragement and comfort.
7. Express your love out loud
When did you last tell your partner how you feel about them? Don’t assume he knows; tell him so! Verbal affirmations can keep romance alive.
8. Cuddle
Nothing makes your partner feel loved quite like a good cuddle. Carve out some time in your day to give him some much-needed skin-on-skin contact. Be whatever size spoon he needs; every relationship could benefit from more physical touch (and if the cuddling leads to passionate, romantic sex, that’s a nice bonus).
9. Take him on a spontaneous date night
Plan a date and surprise your partner with the itinerary. Note that not everyone loves to have an elaborate dinner and movie plan sprung on them on a random Wednesday night, so be flexible. Maybe let him know in advance that you’ve planned a date. Tell him the when but not the where to maintain some mystery.
10. Leave him sweet little notes
Wouldn’t you love to see a cute note by the coffee maker in the morning after your partner’s gone to work? Writing one only takes a few seconds, but the impact can last for years. Love notes set a romantic cadence for your lover’s day and turn him into a human heart-eye emoji.
11. Make him a playlist
Music is a universal language. So, if you don’t have a way with words, try enlisting the help of your favorite artist. When you create a playlist for your partner, avoid generic love songs he’s heard a million times. Pick something personal, whether it’s music that reminds you of him or tunes you’ve enjoyed together.
12. Watch the sunrise or sunset together
Whether you’re a morning or evening person, we have good news: The sun paints the sky like a romantic watercolor twice a day. So, why not grab your partner’s hand, a bottle of wine (maybe not for sunrise, but who are we to judge? Brunch exists), and enjoy one of life’s simplest, most awe-inducing pleasures.
13. Plan a weekend getaway
A weekend getaway is highly romantic, like a date that lasts for days. But it will probably require more communication than your spontaneous Wednesday dinner. Ensure your partner likes surprises and large gestures that consume his entire weekend. Even if you have to rearrange plans, your man will probably get all misty knowing you went through the trouble to plan something special.
14. Give him a spontaneous hug
A hug from nowhere while your partner is brushing his teeth or cooking dinner can say a lot. If you’re not much for big romantic gestures, put your biceps to work and squeeze him like you never want to let go. Extra points for giving him a romantic kiss on the neck, cheek, or, you know, truly wherever.
15. Give him a gift “just because”
Making or buying a gift just because you love someone is an underrated way to express your feelings. It doesn’t even really matter what it is. Any thoughtful gift will remind your special someone that he’s always on your mind.
16. Take a long walk together
A long walk shows your partner that you’re willing to give him your most precious resource: time. Connect, listen, and share on your walk. Pick a scenic and secluded route to really up the romance. It’s a great way to cap off a date night (and work the gas out of your gut before you get home and get busy).
17. Recreate your first date
Surprise your partner by doing a shot-for-shot remake of your first date. The more realistic you can get, the better. Do you have the same outfit? Can you style your hair in a similar way? You could even call the restaurant in advance and see if they can secure the same table.
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Perks of being romantic
Romance is its own reward, but it can certainly provide additional benefits. Here are some relationship perks you’ll enjoy when you get all lovey-dovey:
- It strengthens your bond with your partner to help you feel more in love than ever.
- You’re creating lasting memories you can both cherish.
- Acts of love make you and your partner happy.
- Keeping romance alive can also make you hornier for each other.
- Romantic gestures show you’re committed and caring.
- Sharing romantic moments — especially ones that aren’t just physical gifts — can help you connect with your lover on a deeper level.
Make every day romantic
Whether you cook his favorite meal or send him a text reminding him of your love, there’s always an opportunity to be more romantic. Keep seeking new and unique ways to appreciate your partner. Make him feel loved, and you’ll feel the love in return.
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