How to Have an Anal Orgasm: Intensify Your Anal Sex Experience
Orgasms aren’t necessarily the end-all-be-all for sex, but they’re an undeniable perk. Penetration until you reach peak pleasure is one of life’s great joys, even if it’s the bane of laundry day (sorry to those towels).
But what if we said you’re only getting half the story? That there was another way for you to buck and bray your way through sexual intercourse? We’re talking about the anal orgasm: something that often isn’t discussed when talking about anal sex, but a pleasurable subject that we’re about to crack wide open (with plenty of lube, of course).
What is an anal orgasm?
An anal orgasm, or a prostate orgasm, is the climax you experience from stimulating all those juicy nerve endings you have going on between-me-down-there. It’s a unique orgasm compared to one you’d have while petting your Peter, and one that’s worth getting excited about if distinct moments of intense sexual pleasure are your jam.
Anal orgasms aren’t always going to end in the firework style that your run-of-the-mill orgasms do; you don’t have to worry about where you’re gonna finish because it’s (ideally) all internal. The pleasure radiates through your body in a similarly intense way, but your cock is not required. Doesn’t he deserve a break?
All about prostate orgasms and the P-spot
Men and people with prostates have a leg up regarding intense anal orgasms due to an anatomical advantage. You might have heard of the G-spot before, referring to the vaginal button that turns breathy moaners into screeching yodelers. But how much do you know about the G-spot’s cousin, the P-spot?
Anal sex is phenomenal for stimulating the prostate, colloquially referred to as the P-spot. The prostate is roughly the size of a walnut and found under your bladder. This internal erogenous zone is the button your body presses when it’s time to blow your load.
The prostate is extremely sensitive, so much so that even indirect pressure can have you howling. Prostate stimulation is the primary way people with penises reach an orgasm during anal sex.
How does an anal orgasm feel?
If you’ve never experienced an anal orgasm before, you’re probably wondering how you’d even know you’re having one. At the risk of being too vague, anal orgasms are an IYKYK situation. But just to give you an idea, let’s paint a prettier picture of prostate stimulation.
Anal orgasms are often described as an intense wave of pleasure that courses through every part of your body. They’re typically more intense than any loads you’ll blow from penile stimulation, and the refractory period is shorter, so you can go for a repeat within minutes.
But why wait for someone else to describe it? If you’ve got a prostate and you’re willing to milk that thing, we recommend you find out how it feels for yourself.
Safety measures to consider before anal sex
Safe sex is good sex, and anal orgasms are no exception. So, before letting someone loosen your caboose, ensure you’ve gone through this checklist:
Consent
You know it, you love it, and if you don’t have it, you aren’t going any further. Consent is the first step in a safe, comfortable experience with anal sex. Forget everything else and focus on establishing this before toys or appendages go anywhere near butts.
Douching
If you’re going to bottom, you should ensure the chasm is cleared of rubble, so to speak. Douching with water from a bulb is the easiest way to do this and a go-to for gay men. Don’t be overly aggressive with your douching or use hot water; otherwise, you’ll aggravate your bowels right before someone rearranges your guts.
Condom use
Condoms are essential for safe play and STI prevention. Although medicine has made many strides with STI treatment and prevention, there’s no arguing with a condom’s efficacy for keeping your hole from gettin’ the sniffles.
Clean sex toys
If you’re using sex toys, make sure they’re clean. Really, you should be doing this regardless of what kind of sex you’re having. You wouldn’t eat off a dirty plate, would you? (Don’t answer that.)
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How to have an anal orgasm
You’re lying there, legs in the air, ready to have an earth-shattering sexual experience through the joy of p-spot play. But what comes next? You do. Well, after you read these sex tips, anyway.
1. Talk with your partner
Communication with your partner is a must if you want them to join you in your anal stimulation journey. Of course, you can go solo down the road less traveled if you’d prefer. It’s entirely possible to have an anal orgasm with a dildo, some lube, and a can-do attitude. But if you want your partner involved, it should always start with a conversation.
2. Start slow
Anal sex is not a race. Hell, no sexual experience has to be fast and furious unless you’re trying to bang one out before your WFH Zoom meeting. The bumhole doesn’t respond well to rushed penetration, so ease yourself into it. Bottoms might want to start in a position that gives more control so they can choreograph just how fast or slow they want to take things while getting used to becoming human shawarma.
3. Add lube
You can read all the tweets you want about wet bussy and self-lubricating sphincters, but we’re here to let you know that — barring some inexplicable miracle of nature — an anus does not ready itself for sex the same way a vagina does. You need to butter that butt of yours like a crescent roll if you want any of this to be sexy, especially if you aren’t a prostate-pushin’ pro.
Anal orgasms: 4 toe-curling benefits
Cumming from penetration obviously feels fantastic, but did you know there’s even more to love about reaching the big, beautiful O with your butt?
Stress relief
Orgasms are a satisfying way to bring full-body pleasure while also reducing stress. So, if you’ve got a big exam or job interview, activating your anal erogenous zone might help take your mind off things.
Prostate health
Massaging your prostate can have positive health effects. (We only do it for medical reasons, of course.) It can improve blood flow to the area and potentially lower your chances of developing future prostate complications. The research is still inconclusive, but hey, considering how good it feels, we’ll take this anecdotal evidence and run with it.
Deeper intimacy and connection
Having unique sexual experiences with a partner can connect you in a whole new way. And sometimes that partner can even be yourself! Building intimacy by providing or experiencing the waves of pleasure from an anal orgasm can be highly affirming and gratifying for both partners!
The best positions for having an anal orgasm
It’s time to assume the position. But which one is best for blasting your butt ’til you nut? Here’s what we recommend you try when stuffing your sphincters:
Lay on your stomach
This position, aka the prone bone, is perfect if you’re with a partner. Lie down on your stomach, maybe with a pillow beneath your hips, if that’s more comfortable. Now that you’re ass up, the rest is up to your partner, your finger, or your trusty anal beads.
Lay on your side
Spooning is always a relaxing and intimate position, so it’s excellent if you’re new to anal. You can also tuck your legs up with your knees to your chest to expose that prepped hole of yours for fucking, rimming, fingering, or all of the above.
Doggy style
Is there anything this sex position can’t do? Doggy is a comfy sex position for everyone that helps power tops leverage a lot of force while they’re fucking. You might need to direct him a bit or adjust your angle to hit that P-spot perfectly. But once he does, let him know he’s struck gold.
A hole new world of pleasure
Why wait to experience the pleasure of anal orgasms? You already have everything you need: a hole, a finger, and a lazy Sunday afternoon. Partners who want to provide a more intense sexual experience for your bottoms, take heed: Study up on the anatomy so you can be a better top! Pull back from the urge to slam ham for a second and pay attention to what’s working for your partner. And don’t be stingy with that lube if you want sex to remain pleasurable.
Turn your next anal experience into a yay-nal one with a better understanding of the prostate gland and butt in general. Your whole body will thank you — especially your hole.
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