Give an Oscar-Worthy Performance With These Sex Role-Play Ideas

Picture this: You’re on a transatlantic trip to Paris. Suddenly, the hot flight attendant, whose mountainous bulge you noticed long before takeoff, wakes you up, leads you to the back of the plane, and welcomes you into the mile-high club. This could be you — with a little imagination. 

Great sex is all about having fun. And sometimes, the best way to inject intrigue (and a little humor) into your sex life is with some good old-fashioned role-playing. 

Need help getting into character? If you can’t come up with any sex role-play ideas, we’ve got you covered. 

An important note: Before embarking on a new sexual journey, talk it out with your partner — especially if it involves acting out kinks that require safe words. That way, you can relax knowing everyone is in on the act. 

15 role-play ideas for sex

Ready to crank up the heat with some sexy role-play? Here are 15 sexual role-play ideas to get those creative juices flowing. 

1. Butler

Hello, Mr. Darcy — do your pillows need some freshening? For role-play newbies, relying on familiar pop culture tropes is an easy way to diffuse the pressure and get into character.

Whether you’re the boss demanding impeccable service or the butler attending to their every need, this role-play scenario is about serving and being served. Slip into a snug vest and get ready to polish your partner’s silverware. 

2. Boss and employee

Has your boss been riding you all week? There’s nothing like getting bent over a desk to cultivate a work-life balance.

The excitement of role-play ideas for couples lies in playing with taboos and power dynamics. Maybe you’re a nasty secretary and timid manager, or perhaps you’re going the extra mile for a VIP client. Finish your important sales presentation with a happy ending!

If you really want to get into character, ditch the bedroom and try out fun new sex positions on a desk or chair. Likewise, try dressing up. A suit and tie aren’t just sexy — they’re practical. Use a tie to bind your partner or a belt for some consensual booty slapping.

Whatever you do, be sure to move your laptop to a safe space; we’re pretty sure cum damage isn’t covered by the warranty. 

3. A stranger in the night

You’ve probably seen a hunk on the street you wanted to take home. The stranger fantasy is your chance to live out your ill-advised urges.

This is a great idea for special occasions, like an anniversary or birthday sex. Plan a night out where you’ll catch eyes at a hotel bar, coffee shop, or club. To make it extra naughty, use fake names, dream up elaborate backstories, and finish exploring each other’s bodies in a hotel room. To make it even naughtier, push boundaries that aren't acceptable otherwise, like pretending to be a cheating husband having a secret affair. 

4. Masseuse 

The erotic massage therapist is a freebie. After all, there’s nothing like a full-body massage from your partner to get you horny as hell. 

If you’re playing the masseuse, take your time and pay attention to your partner’s entire body. Start from the bottom and work your way up, teasing and warming up your partner along the way. And if you haven’t mastered your technique, a massage is the perfect opportunity to practice your hand job skills. 

5. Delivery person

Did someone order a meat lover's supreme? If the pizza delivery boy fantasy is good enough for porn, it’s good enough for us.

This scenario is great if you’re feeling shy; you can ease into dirty talk with sexy puns. Pretend you’re delivering a pizza or package and invite yourself in for a big tip. Bonus points for treating yourself to a real pizza after deep-throating your partner’s sausage.

6. Doctor or nurse

The doctor-and-patient scenario draws on deep-seated psychology to achieve its eroticism. There’s no denying the relationship between sexual attraction and authority, objectification, mortality, and taboo.

Plus, it’s hot to bang a doctor — especially if they give some George Clooney realness in cute blue scrubs. Start by asking your partner to strip down for a physical and explain that your cheeks are the only remedy for that pesky erection. 

For similar play on power dynamics, you can also try coach and player, professor and student, or pilot and flight attendant. 

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7. Cat burglar

You step out of the shower and hear a strange noise in the living room. A large, intimidating man is trying to steal your TV! In ordinary circumstances, this isn’t a sexy scenario. But for couples that enjoy submissive and dominant role-play, rough sex, or BDSM, an intruder fantasy is a fun way to add a little danger. 

Like any type of kink, be sure to talk everything out ahead of time, including a safe word and each partner’s specific boundaries. 

8. Royals

Are you really watching Queen Charlotte for the plot? Whether you gag over monarchy drama or not, there’s something sexy about being a fancy prince or princess.

This role-play is all about indulging in grandeur and luxury. You could make your man feed you macarons and draw you a bubble bath. Or, pretend you’re a naughty servant looking for the family jewels. Better yet, assume the throne and issue a royal decree: Off with your head unless you give me head. 

9. Cowboys

The appeal of a tight butt in a pair of Wranglers was universally understood long before Brokeback Mountain. To fulfill your rugged sex desires, you don’t need to cosplay with a real horse and barn. Just saddle up and ride your cowboy into the sunset. To get into character, splurge on assless chaps and a cowboy hat (or acting lessons to perfect that laid-back drawl). Now, go tame that stud. 

10. Maid and master

Sex with a French maid isn't just for the straights. The maid fantasy is a fun role-play scenario because it's all about secret trysts and dirty sex with the master of the house. Plus, dressing up in a maid costume is a great excuse to bend over and show off the goods. Consider going pantyless and letting the boss inspect every last inch. 

11. Voyeur

For some, the thrill of being watched dispels inhibitions. Sit your partner down or have them watch out of sight while you strip down, run your hands up and down your body, and masturbate.

The voyeur fantasy is more about the buildup of foreplay than the sex itself. The longer you ratchet up the tension, the more exciting it’ll be when your partner “catches you” and joins in on the fun. 

12. Stripper

Even if sex feels safe and comfortable with your partner, it may be intimidating to enact a sexual fantasy. If you're shy about acting out a sex scene in real life, start small: Ask your partner to seduce you with a sexy striptease and lap dance.

It's a beginner-friendly way to get into role-playing. As you become more aroused (and maybe stuff your partner's G-string with some dollar bills), you may find it easier to switch from shy submissive to dominant daddy. 

13. Plumber

Similar to the delivery person fantasy, the repairman is a playful trope as old as porn itself. Maybe you’re home alone, and the sink has clogged. Luckily, a plumber arrives to snake your pipes. 

The plumber scenario may sound cheesy, but it's a fun reason to fuck on the kitchen floor — in case you needed an excuse to get out of the bedroom. And lucky for you, the costume is easy. All you need is a tank top and some jeans that ride low. 

14. Trail master

Something about the great outdoors makes you want to be one with the wild. Although getting arrested for having sex on a public trail isn’t high on a list of great decisions, kissing next to a fire pit on a weekend cabin getaway lets you safely realize your camp counselor fantasies. 

15. Athletes

Bulging biceps, sweaty torsos, and musky jockstraps — sign us up!

A romp in the locker room is a common sexual fantasy. After all, who doesn’t want to get worked out by a man full of stamina and strength? If you immediately think of sex when your man works his quads, suggest some glute exercises in the shower afterward. 

Lights! Camera! Action! 

There are as many role-play scenarios as days in the year. With a bit of creativity and flair for dramatics, you and your partner will quickly turn your bedroom into a private theater. If you’re new to playing sex games with your partner, choose a role that makes you feel sexy and safe and let your acting chops grow. 

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