Halloween? It’s not just a day—it’s the Olympics of queer excellence. Forget costumes, this is a battle of who can break the most necks. And Grindr’s got the tea. We asked you, and you came through with the hottest looks for 2024.

We asked our users what they think will be the hottest Halloween costumes for 2024. Here’s what they said: 

• Brat Green: You’re not just wearing Brat Green—you’re showing everyone that Brat Summer never ended. Subtlety? Never heard of her. Brat Green is everywhere, and that’s the point. It didn’t just take 2024 by storm—it grabbed the year by the throat. Too loud? Too much? That’s exactly what makes it Brat.
• Chappell Roan: She’s canceled shows, called out her fans, and had thoughts about pop stardom— but can you blame her? Who else has had a rise this fast, going from indie darling to headlining stages in what feels like a heartbeat? Her look? Metallic pink bodysuits, glitter boots, and her iconic Pink Pony Club vibe with feathers and sequins. Chaotic, bold, the moment.
• Cowboy Carter: Rhinestones where dirt used to be, leather in places no one saw coming—this isn’t your typical cowboy. Beyoncé didn’t just tip her hat; she made it sparkle. Sequins, stomping boots, and a Stetson that’s more crown than cap. Country has gone rogue, loud, and fully unapologetic.
• Gladiator: This isn’t Paul Mescal in running shorts—it’s Mescal in slutty armor. Garb clinging in all the right places, bruised, dirty, and hotter for it. You don’t want clean; you want raw, intense, and just the right amount of mess. Mescal’s Lucius doesn’t do polished; he does survival, and looks damn good doing it.

How Early Do You Start Planning Your Costume?

Looks like 9.1% of you start planning the day after Halloween. Are we calling that ambition or just the inability to chill? Meanwhile, 46.6% take a month—enough time to plan, plot, and execute. But the real wild cards are the 27.4%. You wake up, remember it’s Halloween, and somehow pull off a look that leaves people speechless. Real.

Best Couple (or Throuple) Costume Ideas

Alright, so 37.7% of you couldn’t settle for just one—you grabbed Deadpool + Wolverine and called it a day. Then there’s the 15.2% who chose Kamala Harris + Coconut Tree. Mixing policy with palms? Legislative shade just got literal. And 12% of you went straight to Lydia Deetz + Beetlejuice. Sometimes weird just hits different.

That’s just a taste for you. For the data nerds who can’t get enough—check out the rest of our Halloween 2024 survey results below.

Happy Halloween.

Extended Survey Results

Top Costume Picks (Ranked by Popularity):

1. Gladiator — 22.7%
2. Cowboy Carter — 20.7%
3. Brat Green — 20.3%
4. Chappell Roan — 19.1%
5. Homelander (The Boys) — 16.7%
6. Agatha Harkness (Agatha All Along) — 14.2%
7. House Targaryen (House of the Dragon) — 13.5%
8. Jools - “Very Demure, Very Mindful” — 13.3%
9. Raygun (Paris Olympics) — 11.5%
10. Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders — 9.2%
11. Jonathan Bailey’s “Drink Your Milk” Moment — 6.7%
12. Queen of Melrose — 6.4%
13. MaXXXine — 6.2%
14. An Alien — 5.8%
15. Carmy (The Bear) — 5.8%
16. Moo Deng — 5.6%
17. The Boreworm — 4.9%

Best Couple (or Throuple) Costume Ideas (Ranked by Popularity):

1. Deadpool + Wolverine — 37.7%
2. Kamala Harris + The Coconut Tree — 15.2%
3. Lydia Deetz + Beetlejuice — 12%
4. Harley Quinn + The Joker (Folie à Deux) — 11.6%
5. Challengers (for the throuples) — 6.6%
6. Elphaba + Glinda (Wicked) — 5.4%
7. Sabrina Carpenter + Jenna Ortega (Taste Video) — 5.1%
8. Charli XCX + Lorde (or Billie, or Troye, or Addison) — 5%
9. Tania + Tonka (Chimp Crazy) — 1.5%

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Introducing Daddy Lessons—a series of bite-sized snackable lessons in queer history, told by those who’ve lived the kind of lives you don’t learn about in textbooks.

We’re launching Daddy Lessons during LGBT History Month—because if we’re going to teach, we might as well make it sexy. Twice a week, we’re dropping fresh episodes to bring you the history you didn’t get in school. 

No stuffy lectures here—just stories from those who’ve lived through queer history’s defining moments, with the insight and experience to back it up. That’s why we’re thrilled to kick things off with Clayton Littlewood. As one of our Daddies, Clayton isn’t just a storyteller; he’s a chronicler of LGBTQ+ life, an acclaimed writer, and someone who has dedicated himself to capturing the grit, humor, and heart of queer culture.

Curious? You should be. 

Here’s Clayton, in his own words:

Imagine living in a town with no gay bars, no clubs, no saunas, no gay magazines, no bookshops, no films, and—worst of all—no Grindr. That was Weston-super-Mare in the 1970s. I felt like a freak. Like I was the only gay person alive.

My first realization of “otherness” came at school. I vividly remember reaching the third year, and overnight, all my friends started talking about girls. I couldn’t understand what they found interesting about them. Sure, I’d fumbled with a breast or two, but it always felt like a messy business. If they were into it and I wasn’t, what did that make me?

Every Saturday afternoon, I’d catch the bus to the library and browse the Young Adult section. But this day, I was there for a different reason—research. Making sure no one was watching, I gravitated toward the Psychology section. That’s when I found a book on sexual abnormalities. I had a name: homosexual. I nearly dropped the book. I quickly put it back and rushed out of the library.

I took the back entrance, my head buzzing, and popped into the adjoining bathroom. There, I made another discovery. Inside a cubicle, the walls were covered with writing: poetry, jokes, statements like “My mother made me a lesbian” and “If I get her the wool, will she make me one too?” And then, “Stuart sucks big cock,” “Meet me on the prom at 9 pm if you wanna get fucked.” Discovering your culture in a urine-drenched bathroom wasn’t life-affirming, but it was a revelation. There were others like me out there.

Fast forward ten years. Living in London and attending Westminster University, I walked into another library. At the back, on the bottom shelf, I found a gay section—an actual gay section. Quickly, I realized we had a history—a history that had been hidden from me. Oscar Wilde, Alan Turing, Radclyffe Hall, Kings and Queens, the Romans, the Ancient Greeks. It was mind-blowing. And it set me on a course of discovery.

Gay history has long been hidden—from shame, fear, or the law. Diaries have been destroyed, families denied their loved ones’ sexuality, and gay men stayed closeted. Same-sex couples were written off as “best friends.” Even in Hollywood, we’ve been coded, closeted, hidden away like a dirty secret.

Ironically, it was negative press—court cases, raids, arrests, executions—that shone a light on our world. The sensationalist coverage revealed an underground community most never knew existed. That publicity gave rise to the community we know today.

We’ve come far since then, but the pendulum swings back. As gay culture hits the mainstream, backlash follows. Living in Florida, it often feels like I’m living at the heart of it. We’re seeing LGBTQ+ book bans and “Don’t Say Gay” laws. The ACLU is currently tracking over 530 anti-LGBTQI+ bills in the U.S., and trans murders are rising at an alarming rate.

So how do we reach LGBTQ+ youth who may not have access to gay books in school so they don’t feel isolated? That’s where Daddy Lessons comes in. We’re here to get gay history across in a way that’s fun, accessible, and true to our experiences. I come from a generation of survivors. AIDS decimated my generation in the ’80s and ’90s. 

For those of us left, it’s time to give back. It’s time to tell our stories. To keep our history alive.

Don’t miss a lesson—follow us on Instagram, YouTube Shorts, and TikTok. 

Class is in session.

In Challengers, former best friends turned adversaries Patrick and Art (Josh O’Connor and Mike Faist) sit on a sunlit New Rochelle tennis court, sweaty, ruined, and captivating. The sport’s queer undertones are clear as Trent Reznor and Atticus Ross’ score throbs like the climax of a 24-hour rave. Patrick waves a banana — firm, phallic, but full of potassium — at Art before taking a dramatic, throaty bite. While the film was a triumph for queer cinema and tennis lovers alike, there isn’t a real-life crossover. In fact, men’s tennis remains one of the few global sports without an openly gay player.

Even without the banana and Guadagnino’s sensual director’s eye, skin-tight tennis whites, glistening sweat droplets, and bellowing grunts are still the name of the game—something Grindr understands with its new, court-ready “Grunt” notification sound. It’s hard to envision something gayer than two guys whacking a ball back and forth, so what’s the root of the lack of representation? The other end of the tennis spectrum evokes visions of country clubs, stuffiness, conservative elitism, pearl necklaces — and not the fun kind, either. And beyond this: the riptide of homophobia. 

On a Reddit thread entitled “Are there any out gay male tennis players?” fans wonder about LGBTQ+ visibility with a mix of trepidation and speculation. There’s the ever-looming fear of heckling; the loss of lucrative sponsorships in a highly individual sport without the backing of a team; traveling to countries where being out and proud includes the specter of hostility and even violence. (Notably, the absence of LGBTQ+ representation at the elite male level stands in stark contrast to the women's game, where notably former players like Billie Jean King, Martina Navratilova, Amelie Mauresmo, and Daria Kasatkina have come out over the years.)

In many cases, the call is also coming from inside the house: a 2022 survey of the men’s Association of Tennis Professionals (ATP) tour revealed that 75 percent of players had heard other players use homophobic slurs, prompting the tour to partner with You Can Play, an organization dedicated to advancing LGBTQ+ inclusion in sports. In addition to the devastatingly high percentage, the aforementioned survey also noted a "strong fear of rejection, isolation from others on tour, and loneliness" as being barriers to players' publicly disclosing their sexuality.

It was the reality for American player Brian Vahaly, who came out publicly in 2017 — a full decade after retiring from the sport. “I heard homophobic comments all the time in the locker room: to my face, behind my back,” he told The Telegraph in 2018. “That was just a part of the culture.” No matter how many rainbow flags or LGBTQ+ charities are involved, the persistence of homophobia in men’s sports can’t be ignored. It’s locker room culture; it’s fearful alpha males; it’s the jock archetype from high school, stronger and more vicious with age.

To state the obvious: It’s all a damn shame. Two men with ripped, lean bodies grunting and swinging their rackets is a beautiful thing that has no place in the closet. As with most things in life, it’s all a matter of time. It only takes one tennis player to say, “Fuck it!” and open the doors for those in his wake. (Or perhaps the Challengers effect is already in motion? All will be revealed!) Until then, we’ll always have the grunts.

Season 2: We’re back, and yes—everyone’s still an asshole.

Last season was a light spank. Now? We’re going all in—big time. Who’s the Asshole? Season 2 is here, and Katya and her celebrity guests are getting their hands dirty, sifting through hookups and hang-outs gone awry to figure out: who’s the asshole? 

A master in chaos and off-the-wall absurdity, Katya will dig through your past, air out your dirty laundry, and make it a comedy special. Katya has that rare combination of self-awareness and biting humor that makes every punchline universal.

Season 1 was messy, but in Season 2, we’re setting up camp. Grab a seat and get comfortable.

Season 1 Recap

In case you missed it, Season 1 gave us the likes of Orville Peck, Jordan Firstman, Trace Lysette, and Saucy Santana. Check out their episodes for a refresher. 

What’s New in Season 2

This time, we’re upping the ante—Season 2 is stacked. Here’s who we’ve got:

Adam Lambert‍

He’s fronted Queen, taken over American Idol, and lit up stages worldwide with his sky-high tenor. From selling millions worldwide to reimagining glam rock for a new generation, Lambert keeps pushing boundaries.

Cosmo Lombino (Queen of Melrose)‍

Hollywood’s own gossip queen doesn’t do subtle. She’s loud, she’s everywhere, and somehow she knows everything. Hollywood’s secrets? She got them. The rest of us? Just trying to keep up with her.

Gottmik‍

Drag queen, makeup artist, and the first trans man to compete on RuPaul’s Drag Race, Gottmik knows how to beat a face—and if you think that’s impressive, just wait until you see how else she turns up the heat. 

Bowen Yang‍

Quick with the punchlines and quicker with the stings, Bowen Yang is your resident scene-stealer from SNL, now set to make waves in Wicked as he brings his sharp wit to the big screen.

Brandon Kyle Goodman‍

You know him from Big Mouth and Human Resources, but get ready for the kind of real talk that doesn’t come with an animation filter. He’s bringing the laughs and leaving just enough to let your imagination do the dirty work.

Evan Ross Katz‍

Pop culture journalist and podcast host (Shut Up Evan) Evan Ross Katz reads the headlines before they’re written and asks the questions you didn’t realize needed answers. If it’s happened, he’s already there.

The Grindr Voicemail

Full inbox. Fuller confessions. You sent us your juiciest voicemails, and we listened. Now it’s time to air them all out. Katya and her guests will comb through every detail and decide: were you in the right, or were you just another asshole? 

One thing’s for sure: whatever you confessed—good luck hiding it now. This season, nothing’s off-limits, no one’s safe, and we’ve got the receipts.

Whether your story has us clenching or cracking up, we’ll be right here, judging every last detail. So tune in. It’s going to be one hell of a ride—straight to the… well, you know where.

The first episode of Season 2 premieres on September 12, 2024, and can be viewed on YouTube and streamed wherever you get your podcasts.

At Grindr, we're constantly exploring ways to improve your experience and expand the Global Gayborhood in Your Pocket^TM. In doing so, we know that privacy is uniquely important to our community. Unfortunately, in many places around the world, sometimes even in the U.S., the consequences of coming (and being) out can still be serious. So we take a privacy-forward approach to our work. Today, we're excited to share some upcoming changes to our privacy policy that will lay the groundwork for innovative features designed to make your Grindr experience even better.

What's Coming Soon

Transparency first

Our Privacy Program is guided by three core principles: transparency, user control, and data minimization. We update our Privacy Policy regularly, and each time we make updates we strive to make it clear and informative, though we realize this can mean more reading. Since 2021, we have organized the Privacy Policy in a layered manner so that you can navigate to the section that is most important to you.

We're rolling out the product and policy changes described below thoughtfully, step by step, to ensure we're getting it right. And we're providing advance notice explanations of the choices you have in personalizing your Grindr experience.

Nearby connections and more 

Since Grindr’s inception, users have found great value in the app's location-based interface. We also know that how people make connections has changed since our start in 2009. While proximity remains a core element of the Grindr experience, we know some users are interested in connecting with people who have similar interests, even if they're not the closest geographically. We also know that some might like advice on how to craft an intro message beyond ‘Sup’. So we're excited to announce a brand new section to our Privacy Policy called "Our Connection Algorithms." This new section explains how your data can be used to better connect you with people, chatbots, services, and experiences through Grindr by further personalizing the Grindr experience, providing AI features tailored to individual interests (e.g., profile recommendations and a personal chatbot), and continually improving these features for the Grindr community. We’re excited to offer a more personalized experience through AI-powered features, but we understand it’s important for you to choose what’s right for you. Soon you’ll see an in-app pop-up where you can give explicit consent for Grindr to use certain data¹ that privacy laws define as sensitive for AI development – before this data can be used. You’ll also have in-app control over whether even your non-sensitive data, e.g., city-level location, can be used for AI development. 

More relevant ads

We know that more than 90% of our users enjoy the free version of our app. If you prefer an experience without third-party ads, you can always upgrade to a subscription. With a subscription, you can browse and message other users with no third-party ads interrupting your pursuit of a new connection, and no Personal Information is shared with advertising partners because no third-party ads are served.  

Making a free tier of Grindr available is important to us, and we’re able to do so because advertising revenue subsidizes some of the costs of providing this service. For ad-supported accounts, we currently share very limited information with advertisers (no Personal Information beyond IP address and an advertising identifier – with consent), but we recognize that this sometimes results in ads that may not be relevant to you. 

If you choose to receive personalized ads, we’d like to provide ads that are relevant to you while respecting your privacy. Therefore, if you choose personalized ads, the manner in which Personal Information is shared will be done in a privacy-preserving way. For example, we will allow advertisers to reach Grindr users based on general categories. This could involve sharing non-sensitive profile details like your general location (think city-level, not your exact location) or interests you’ve tagged in your profile (like your love for Sunday brunch), but only with your consent. Finally, Grindr does not share any information about your vaccination, testing, or HIV status with third-party advertisers. No vaccination status. No testing reminders. No HIV status. 

It's important to emphasize that sharing certain Personal Information for ads remains entirely optional—you’re in full control of whether you receive personalized ads and therefore what data is shared with advertising partners. As always, you can accept or decline to receive potentially more relevant ads via the Consent Preference Center within the app. For more information, please check out this help center article. 

Data retention and more

In this update, we have made efforts to address some commonly asked questions. For example, we include that all accounts with no log-ins for the past two (2) years are considered “inactive,” and are deleted from our systems in line with our Privacy Policy. We have also updated how European users can contact our EEA and UK representatives. And we are transitioning our Consent Management Platform, which lets you manage personalized ad choices, to a new provider– Ketch. 

Your Privacy, Our Priority

We understand that privacy is of paramount importance to our users given our community’s unique needs, and we recognize that Grindr is a special space for our community. Privacy is also at the heart of what makes our space inviting, comfortable, and fun. We are committed, now and always, to being transparent, keeping you informed, and earning– and maintaining– your trust. 

We know you might have questions, and we are here to help. We have worked hard to create a policy that gives you the information you need to make informed choices, and this blog is intended to explain the most important changes in clear, easy-to-understand terms. If you still have questions, feel free to contact us directly at [email protected]. 

¹ The in-app consent allows you to choose whether limited, optional profile fields (ethnicity, pronouns, gender, looking for, tribe, tags, and position); chat message content; and precise location can be used to help build AI features. You remain in control of what you include in your profile. 

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We just landed in Malta for our latest episode of Host or Travel, and while the island might be pint-sized, it’s got a swagger bigger than its borders. Ready to stir up some Mediterranean mischief? Let’s get to it.

We wasted no time, starting with a stroll through Barrakka Gardens. This perfect slice of greenery offers more than just breathtaking views; the daily cannon blasts from the Saluting Battery serve as a powerfhomosexualschul reminder of Malta’s history. Originally used to signal the time to ships in the Grand Harbour and display the island’s readiness for defense, this tradition has been shaking Valletta awake since 1566. Today, it’s a ceremonial nod to the island’s rich past, echoing the enduring spirit of the Knights of St. John.

Our next stop was Strait Street, where our guide Artur led us through the alleys that once buzzed with British sailors in the 1940s. These narrow streets were playgrounds for a little ‘after-hours diplomacy,’ and the secluded courtyards were ideal for off-the-record R&R.

With Valletta’s lively history behind us, we cranked up the adventure with a trip to Gozo, Malta’s quieter, more rugged cousin, where “everyone’s got a jeep.” Hidden beaches? Check. Scenic views? Double check.

The next day, we traded the jeep for a peaceful walk through Mdina, the Silent City. With medieval cobblestones and ornate door knockers, it’s no wonder Game of Thrones filmed scenes here—wandering through Mdina felt like stepping straight onto a medieval set.

We capped our Malta visit with a stop at Café Society, one of the island’s few LGBTQ+ bars. During the day, it’s all about relaxed vibes, but by night, the scene transforms with multicolored lights, creative cocktails, and music that turns a laid-back drink into a lively mini rave.

And if you think that’s all Malta has to offer, keep reading—we’ve got plenty more to uncover.

Malta Food

Elephant Shoe — Elephant Shoe in Valletta is the kind of spot that makes you glad you skipped the hotel breakfast. Tucked away in the city’s bustling core, this place knows how to do brunch without pretension. The “Merry Ducking Christmas” might sound like a gimmick, but it’s the dish you need after a morning of wandering the narrow streets. Meanwhile, the “WAP” waffles are a playful nod to pop culture without trying too hard. The vibe here is effortlessly cool, a mix of locals and savvy travelers who know a good thing when they find it.

Balance Bowl — In Valletta, Balance Bowl serves plant-based food that’s good enough to make you wonder why you don’t eat like this all the time. The menu is carefully put together, offering dishes like the “No Calamari Crunch.” Made from oyster mushrooms, it’s nothing like calamari, which is the point—it’s something uniquely delicious. Here, the food speaks for itself, subtly convincing you that making healthy choices doesn’t mean sacrificing taste.

Barracuda — At Barracuda, everything unfolds exactly as you’d expect from a seasoned establishment. The menu offers a masterclass in Mediterranean seafood—grilled octopus, sea bass—all arriving just as they should, without any unnecessary fanfare. Large windows frame the sea, serving as a constant reminder of the luxe experience you’re paying for. 

Malta Nightlife

Queerlesque — Queerlesque is a spectacle of glamorous and occasionally shocking burlesque acts. Featuring an all-queer cast, the show celebrates a vibrant blend of diversity, creativity, and empowerment. Performers hail from the USA, Poland, Syria, and beyond, showcasing the beauty of all body types, colors, and identities. 

A Little Crush — Every Wednesday evening in the summer, “A Little Crush” takes over Surfside Beach Club in Sliema, Malta, offering sunset music, cocktails, and a breeze that’s as cool as the vibe. Organized by a group of music enthusiasts, this event is all about the simple pleasures—sweet melodies, crashing waves, and cocktails that go down easy. Expect dreamy DJ sets from names like Simon Sauter and Nicky Slim, alongside the occasional b2b performance.

Kaktus Caffee — In Malta and in need of a pick-me-up? Kaktus is probably where you’ll want to end up. Tucked near Stella Maris Church in Sliema, this café serves Berliner pastries that set the bar high, paired with coffee that’s worth the detour. Pleasant, relaxed, and with service that makes you feel like a regular. That’s Kaktus.

Malta Arts & Culture

Rosa Kwir — The Rosa Kwir project celebrates diverse masculinity through the stories of trans, non-binary, and masculine-presenting LGBTQ+ individuals in Malta. Inspired by Rosa Mifsud—a trailblazer who, in 1774, successfully petitioned to have her legally recognized sex changed from female to male—this archive brings together donated objects, photos, videos, and written materials, alongside vibrant events.

St. John’s Co-Cathedral — St. John’s Co-Cathedral in Valletta is where Baroque drama hits its peak. Built by the Knights of Malta in the 1570s, it’s home to Caravaggio’s The Beheading of Saint John the Baptist—a 12-by-17-foot reminder that subtlety was never his strong suit. Caravaggio left his mark here in more ways than one, literally, as this is the only painting he ever signed.

Valletta Contemporary — Tucked in Valletta’s lower east end, Valletta Contemporary is where old-world charm meets cutting-edge art. Opened in 2018 inside a 400-year-old warehouse, this independent gallery—run by the Norbert Francis Attard Foundation—seamlessly blends modern exhibition spaces with historic architecture. Year-round, it hosts dynamic exhibitions from both local and international contemporary artists, while also engaging the community through outreach and educational programs.

Don’t let Malta’s size fool you—it’s packing a lot more than you’d expect.

Got more hot spots we missed? Head to our YouTube channel and drop your recs in the comments!

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Wedding season is upon us, and if you’ve ever wondered how to navigate the social waters of a queer wedding—or better yet, how to make sure you’re not that guest—this guide is for you. Grindr surveyed thousands of its users to gather the tea on what flies and what flops when it comes to queer weddings. From avoiding awkward questions to understanding the nuances of queer wedding traditions, we’ve got you covered.

The Don’ts: What Not to Say or Do

Don’t Play the Groom/Bride Guessing Game

It might seem innocent, but asking, “Who’s the groom?” and “Who’s the bride?” rank as the ultimate no-gos, with 54.9 percent of respondents marking it as the worst nuptial question. Let’s be mindful, alright?

Avoid Intrusive Relationship Questions

Curiosity is natural, but there’s a limit. Asking, “Who’s the top and who’s the bottom?” isn’t just rude; it’s also none of your business. With 29.8 percent of Grindr users placing this as a major faux pas, it’s clear that some things are better left unasked.

The Icks: Straight Folks, Take Notes

Weddings Are Not Spectacles

A queer wedding isn’t a novelty celebration. They should be treated the same as yours. The biggest ick? Straight people treating the ceremony like a spectacle. At least, that’s what 26 percent of respondents said, wishing that straight folks would just kick back and enjoy the moment. And for the love of all things sacred, no one needs to hear how “brave” you think queer weddings are.

Ditch the Heteronormativity

Comparing queer couples to straight ones? Not cute. It’s not a compliment to say, “You two are just like a regular couple!” or “Your relationship is so traditional!” Queer love doesn’t need to be validated by how closely it mirrors something else. Let us live.

The Dos: How to Be the Perfect Wedding Guest

Get Involved in the Fun

It’s a party, y’all, so now’s not the time to hold back. If we don’t see you on the dance floor, we’ll be taking notes…

Respect the Couple’s Wishes

When the couple asks for something—whether it’s sticking to a dress code, using the right pronouns, or honoring a unique tradition—your job is to follow suit (or dress). After all, it’s their day, not a choose-your-own-adventure. So, if the invitation says black tie, don’t show up in flip-flops.

Avoid These Phrases at All Costs

And then there are the things that just don’t need to be said. Here’s what Grindr users flagged as the biggest conversational landmines.

“How many of these guys have you hooked up with?”

It’s invasive, it’s cringy, and it’s got all the charm of an unsolicited LinkedIn message. Save everyone the discomfort and just… don’t.

Calling a Partner a “Friend” or “Roommate”

This isn’t a sitcom from the ’90s, m’kay? Our respondents suggest you drop the euphemisms and call it what it is. If you’re unsure, “partner” works just fine.

“I support your lifestyle.”

Being gay is not a lifestyle brand. 25.5 percent of users think this is one of the most patronizing phrases. We’re here to celebrate love, not seek approval.

Matchmaking? Think Again

Feeling like playing Cupid? Resist. 60.3 percent of respondents suggest you let love find its own way without your help. The wedding is about the couple in front of you, not the potential couples you’re dreaming up.

Gendered Traditions: Time for a Change?

Weddings aren’t a box to tick off. Grindr users know this, and they’re here to show that the only rule is to toss the rulebook. Here’s how they’re shaking things up.

Mix and Match — 51.8 percent of respondents prefer to pick and choose which traditions to follow, blending them to suit their preferences.

Go Gender-Neutral — 15.1 percent are all about adapting traditions to be more inclusive.

Complementary Yet Distinct — 44.6 percent of respondents favor outfits that complement each other without matching.

Individual Styles — 27.4 percent prefer expressing their unique identities through clothing choices.

Keep Your Original Names — 31.6 percent of respondents are all for keeping their own last names.

Hyphenate — 31.1 percent opt to hyphenate both last names, blending them in a way that feels right.

Music and Entertainment: Keeping It Queer

Interestingly, 59.4 percent of respondents don’t care too much about incorporating queer culture into the music and entertainment at their wedding. But for those who do, queer DJs, LGBTQ+ anthems, and drag performances are top choices.

For Straight Weddings: Inclusivity Matters

You call the shots—after all, it’s your wedding. But if inclusivity is on your radar, these minor tweaks could add a nice touch and earn you some extra queer street cred.

Attendants of Honor — 25.8 percent of respondents feel this term resonates most when replacing the traditional bridesmaids and groomsmen.

No ‘Gay Table’ Please — 85.2 percent of respondents say a firm no to segregating guests based on their sexual orientation (we hope this seems obvious).

And That’s a Wrap

Weddings, queer or otherwise, are really just about showing up, having a good time, and letting people celebrate the way they want. If you’ve picked up a few tips here, great. If not, just remember: smile, don’t ask weird questions, and play by the rules. Everything else? Just go with the flow.

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Open season is upon us. This year, we’re serving grunt on (and off) the court. 

In the spirit of the US Open, Grindr’s taking a swing at something new—introducing the ‘grunt’ notification sound. That’s right, tennis grunts. They’re hot, they’re heavy, and now they’re part of your Grindr experience.

For those who live for the court, this will be an instant ace. But even if tennis isn’t your game, we think this new sound will still net you some fun. 

Why tennis, and why now? Because where else do grunts speak volumes, whether you’re playing a match or just playing around? Grindr and tennis were always a match made in heaven; we’re just making it official.

Ready for some action? Here’s how:

1. Tap your profile photo.
2. Go to Settings.
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Willkommen to Berlin, a city that wears its culture on its leather sleeve. Germany’s capital boasts pristine Prussian architecture, grungy street art, and a nightlife scene with such extended hours you’ll forget time exists (what day is it anyway?). This is a place for those who crave something different, with a come-one-come-all vibe that has made it a haven for expats from all over the world.

In our latest episode of Host or Travel, we kicked things off at Toms Wurst, a temple to Berlin's most beloved street food: the currywurst. But this isn't just any sausage. No, this spicy little hog is slathered in a sauce so tangy, you’ll want to take your sweet time with it. After living the curry fantasy, we headed to the Tipsy Bear, one of Berlin’s best no-frills queer bars—glitter, grit, and a whole lot of gumption. The shows are a riot, and if you're lucky, you might just get pulled onstage.

Of course, Berlin's queer scene isn't all glitz and glamour. At Grosse Freiheit 114, things are a little steamier—less sparkle, more sweat. Here, anything goes, and respect and consent are the only rules. Beyond that, it’s your playground.

We ended the night at Schwuz, a pulsing, throbbing testament to the best of German club culture. Three rooms—unlimited rotating music genres. At Schwuz, there’s a holy trinity of bass, bodies, and bad decisions just waiting for you to worship.

Here’s a list of more spots you should check out.

Berlin Food

Berio Berlin—The kind of place where one coffee turns into three (the people-watching is that good). The tables are always packed with people who know a good coffee when they taste it. If you can snag a seat outside, consider yourself lucky because everyone’s after that perfect spot. In the summer, it’s prime real estate. Fresh pastries, strong coffee, and the buzz of conversation make this place feel like home.

Romeo und Romeo—This Schöneberg spot nails the balance between cozy and cool, and while the walls might not talk, the well-thumbed LGBT magazines on the tables certainly do—they whisper stories of a neighborhood that’s seen it all. The regulars? You’ll find them nursing their espresso like it’s a fine art, which, in this corner of Berlin, it might as well be.

Sissi—Just a few-minute stroll from the subway, Sissi feels like a hidden gem, even though it’s right under your nose. Cozy but not cramped, intimate but not intimidating—it’s quintessential Berlin. Take your pick between the front and back seating, though with portions this generous, you might want to sit close to the door for a quicker escape to walk it all off.

Berlin Nightlight

Prinzknecht—Where Berlin’s industrial edge meets a bear hug—literally. Prinzknecht is a laid-back spot with a rugged charm, friendly crowds, and a warehouse-turned-hangout ambiance. Locals and tourists alike flock here, drawn by the no-nonsense vibe that’s part pub, part gay sanctuary.

KitKatClub—When you step into KitKatClub, you realize modesty’s taken the night off. The dance floor bleeds into the playroom, where latex, leather, and skin collide in Berlin’s most unapologetic sex party. Here, “Do what you want but stay in communication” is the cardinal rule. The rest? That’s up to you.

König Dragshow—What started at Tipsy Bear in 2019 has become a home for drag kings and nonbinary performers. No big production, just a stage where two new acts each month show what they’ve got. It’s raw, it’s real, and it’s all about letting the performers define the night. Highly recommended for the discerning traveler who wants to see a piece of German culture that’s quietly making its mark.

Berlin Arts & Culture

Künstlerhaus Bethanien—Künstlerhaus Bethanien—For 50 years, this international cultural hub in Berlin’s Kreuzberg district has been the gritty backstage of the city’s art scene. It’s where artists from around the world come not just to exhibit but to create—whether that’s painting, sculpting, fabricating, or something entirely different—in a historic building that’s all about the work. No velvet ropes, no pretentious gallery banter—just a space where the focus is on making art, getting messy, and maybe sharing a beer with fellow creatives.

Schwules Museum—Since 1985, Schwules Museum has been the go-to spot for exploring LGBTQ+ stories. From vintage photographs to personal letters and protest signs, each piece here tells a part of the LGBTQ+ journey. Located in Schöneberg’s Rainbow District, the museum also houses a library and archives, making it a key resource for anyone digging into queer culture.

Museum für Film und Fernsehen—In the heart of Berlin, the Museum für Film und Fernsehen is a sleek fusion of cinema and television, past and present. During your time here, you’ll wander through a century of German film, courtesy of the archives of Deutsche Kinemathek, then flip the channel to five decades of TV.

From street eats to basement beats, Berlin never misses.

Tschüss, for now. See you next week in Malta.

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Pop the Mezcal and drop the towel, because we're back with another episode of Host or Travel. This time, we hit up Zipolite, one of the most liberating beach towns in Mexico.

Nestled on a rugged stretch of the southern Pacific coast, this sun-drenched oasis has long been a magnet for free spirits, adventure-seekers, and anyone who believes that life's too short to tan with tan lines. Case in point: Playa del Amor, Zipolite's infamous clothing-optional beach.

But don't be fooled by the birthday suits—Zipolite isn't just for the nudies. This is a place with depth, with soul, with a flavor all its own. Just ask Chef Luis, the mad genius at Xhuba behind some of the most mind-bendingly delicious things we've ever had the pleasure of putting on our tongues. From his savory tlayudas to his crisp ceviche, every bite was a testament to Zipolite's singular spirit.

And then there was La Maxima, the pint-sized powerhouse of a bar where Zipolite's queer community comes to see and be seen. We rounded out our trip with a snorkeling dip down under in the Pacific. Parrotfish, angelfish, dorado, snapper—it’s clear Mother Nature took her time here in Zipolite. And you should, too, because this little slice of heaven’s got enough to do for even the thirstiest vacationers.

Here’s a list of more spots you should check out.

Zipolite Food

Orégano—Zipolite staple and brainchild of two young guns on a mission to keep old-school Oaxacan food alive. Step inside, catch a whiff of fresh tortillas from the comal and try not to drool. Hungry local? Adventurous foodie? Doesn't matter. Orégano's got you with quesadillas that'll rock your world and tlayudas that'll spice up your dreams.

Clan Destino—You stumble into Clan Destino. Shrimp taquitos, consommé, and flautas slam into your face like a freight train. The atmosphere electrifies the space, making it both an intimate dinner haven and the ultimate spot to kick back with a drink. Cozy? Sure. Tame? Absolutely not.

Av. Roca Blanca—Strap on your huaraches, honey, because Av. Roca Blanca is begging to be stepped on. This cobblestone street is an artsy foodie’s dream come true, where you can score a one-of-a-kind painting, sip mezcal with the expat crowd, and get stuffed with the best of Oaxacan cuisine. But be careful—you just might fall in love at least three times before dinner.

Zipolite Nightlife

Hotel Nude Pool Party—Hotel Nude strips away everything expected you’d find at your typical resort. With wood, royal palm, and biophilic design, Hotel Nude is Zipolite's wild child, the black sheep of the resort family. But the real headline? Their clothing-optional policy, one they pioneered when covering up was still the norm. Hotel Nude was the first to let it all hang out, not just on the sand but in every nook and cranny.

Casa Nudista—Casa Nudista is where you realize that being naked is only weird until it isn’t. The sun’s warm, the pool’s cool, and after a few minutes, you start to wonder why you ever bothered with clothes in the first place. At this 100% nudist LGBTQ+ hotel, you stop overthinking and start enjoying the feeling of nothing between you and the breeze. By the end, the strangest part isn’t that you spent the day naked—it’s that putting your clothes back on feels like a step backward.

Domingo Disco—Domingo Disco's what happens when Zipolite's free spirit gets down and dirty with disco, and everyone's invited to the clothing-optional afterparty. This fiesta's as inclusive as it is wild, welcoming all to come dance under the stars. 

Arts and Culture

Gupalii Spa - Forget the fancy spa with the cucumber water and the whale music—Gupalii Spa is the real deal, a hidden gem where ancient rituals meet modern queer magic. The temazcal ceremony is like a spiritual steam room where you sweat out your toxins and emerge reborn. You’ll leave feeling lighter, not just from the detox, but from the realization that your problems are as ancient and universal as the ritual itself.

Mitotecali—Mitotecali’s Polynesian Dance Experience is less about mastering the moves and more about surrendering to the rhythm—awkward flailing included. The instructors guide you with a knowing smile, as if they’ve seen it all before (and they have). By the end, you’re either in sync with the island beats or happily lost in your own offbeat groove. Either way, it’s the most fun you’ll have realizing you’re not as coordinated as you thought.

Shambala Vision—Shambala Vision is where you let strangers rub out your stress while the ocean tries to drown out your last shred of obligations. The massages are top-notch, but it’s the salty breeze and the sound of waves crashing that really get under your skin. At Shambala’s Vision, stress goes to die—their masseuses know every knot you’ve got.

Zipolite changed us. And darling? We loved every second of it. In this queer mecca, the magic is real, and it’s everywhere you turn. 

See you next week in Berlin.

Got more hot spots we missed? Head to our YouTube channel and drop your recs in the comments

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The World Health Organization (WHO) has declared the mpox outbreaks in Congo and other African countries a public health emergency of international concern, with cases surging among children and adults in more than a dozen nations. Grindr is taking immediate action to protect and inform our users across all 54 African countries.

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Ah, Los Angeles! If you’re looking for saints, you’ve boarded the wrong plane. Episode 3 of Host or Travel shows LA is more than silicone and smog, so get ready for some serious stargazing.

Here’s a little recap: We hit Runyon Canyon, where we got our blood pumping dodging selfie sticks and eyeing down the best shirtless talent. Voyeurism and public? We’ll take the lot. Later, the Ginger Rogers surf crew showed us the true meaning of a "group hang," and the East Side gays taught us that even though Akbar is located in Silver Lake, going out there is the gold standard. 

Of course, no queer tour of LA would be complete without a pilgrimage to the Tom of Finland Foundation. Let's just say this Michelangelo of muscle men makes art that puts the Statue of David’s physique to shame. 

And while we two-stepped with the studs at LA’s infamous line dancing party Stud Country, we’re not ready to stop dancing. Feeling the same? You’re in luck. Check out these extra spots for your next LA fix.

LA Food

Casita del Campo — Forget Taco Bell, honey. Step into Casita Del Campo, a Silver Lake staple where queer Mexican food thrives amidst provocative art, "West Side Story" memorabilia, and a colorful atmosphere that's practically begging for stolen kisses and under-the-table antics. 

Bavel — If you manage to score a table at Bavel, consider yourself one of the lucky ones. This fine-dining heavyweight is throwing down some serious Middle Eastern magic in the kitchen. The slow-roasted lamb neck shawarma is the stuff of legends—one bite and you might just swear off all other meat for good.

Chateau Marmont — LA’s favorite den of opulence and sin, where the ghosts of Hollywood’s horny past roam the halls. Kick back in the Gothic-style dining room straight out of a vampire's wet dream, or go for a little al fresco hanky-panky in the lush garden terrace. At the Chateau, anything goes.

LA Nightlife

Hi Tops — Slip into something more comfortable at this gay sports bar where the only thing tighter than the uniforms is the sense of camaraderie. With cheap pitchers and a chance to score, there's no striking out. Can't decide between the West Side and the East Side? Hi Tops has a location in both parts of town, so you can have your balls, brews, and boys any way you like 'em.

The Eagle — Spread your wings. The Eagle’s nest is calling. If you're looking for a beastly night out, fly right into this iconic leather bar where LA's best bears and daddies show you how it's really done.

Ostbahnhof — Abandon all shame, ye who enter here. Ostbahnhof is the unholy lovechild of a grungy warehouse party and a kinky art show. Wall-to-wall flesh, sweat, and a thick fog of pheromones make this party an extreme sport for queers. Inhibition? Don't know her. Shirts? Optional.

Arts and Culture

Wi Spa — Enter the steamiest corner of K-Town, where getting clean takes on a whole new meaning. From the depths of the mugwort pool to the heights of the Himalayan salt sauna, this 24/7 spa paradise is a playground for those who like their relaxation hot, wet, and au naturel.

Griffith Observatory—High atop Mount Hollywood, Griffith Observatory stands tall, an art deco planetarium with science exhibits galore. Feeling starstruck? You're not alone. Even Orion's belt can't help but come undone at the sight of Griffith's three solar telescopes.

LA LGBT Center — For over 50 years, the Los Angeles LGBT Center has empowered queer Angelinos as the world's largest service-providing LGBTQ+ organization. The Center provides free HIV/STI testing, medical care, mental health services, housing support, cultural events,  legal aid, and more to tens of thousands annually. With ten vibrant locations across LA, the Center welcomes all to get involved, access services, or take a tour.

Runyon studs. Eagle daddies. Tom of Finland fantasies. LA, you’re a star. We're spent, but we'll be back for more.

Hasta la vista, baby. See you next week in Zipolite. 

Got more hot spots we missed? Head to our YouTube channel and drop your recs in the comments!

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