Sounding Kink: Insertion Never Sounded So Good

Ever since there were holes, people have been trying to stick stuff in them. So, even if you haven’t heard of or practiced urethral sounding yourself, it shouldn’t be a shock that others have explored the vastness of their vas deferens.

Still, many people cringe or raise their eyebrows when they hear about what’s involved with a sounding kink. It can seem extreme to orifice-spelunking outsiders. So, is this kink actually as extreme as it sounds? Or is it just a lot of noise for nothing? Let’s take a more critical and less judgmental look at urethral sounding — and show how to practice safe sex if you want to give it a go.

What is sounding?

At its core, sounding is the practice of inserting various objects into the urethra for sexual pleasure. The fetish of stimulating and stretching one’s urethra is actually centuries old, so you know this term didn’t just pop into someone’s head during a particularly dull circuit party.

The sounding experience can vary widely, depending on the instrument and technique used. Some sounders stay on the straight and narrow, using low-friction rods, whereas other probes have curves or beads to enhance stimulation.

The goal during sounding is to stimulate the sensitive nerves in the urethra. This can create both pleasurable and intense sensations. It can also trigger a reflexive response from your bladder, which some find arousing. Couple it with some prostate play, and you’ve got the recipe for fornication fireworks.

Is urethral sounding a niche sexual interest? Kind of. It depends on the circles you run in. But that doesn’t make sounding wrong or (automatically) unsafe. And your initial thoughts of that being “not where it goes” are a little moot once you consider the average gay sexual experience involves knocking on the back door. All the best sex involves sticking things where they don’t belong, apparently.

Why do people enjoy sounding sex?

As you can imagine, the sensations from sounding are pretty unique. Some describe it as a mix of pressure and fullness. And it’s not just about physical pleasure; there’s a mental aspect that can enhance the experience. 

Many sounding enthusiasts enjoy the psychological thrill of pushing boundaries. For others, the act of surrendering to the experience can lead to heightened arousal and a sense of vulnerability. It’s like a roller coaster ride for your genitals and urethra — exhilarating, a little scary, and definitely not for the faint of heart, stomach, or bladder (because you might feel like you need to pee).

Additionally, urethral sounding doesn’t have to be a solo act. Sounding with your partner can foster trust and intimacy. The act requires communication, consent, and a shared understanding of boundaries. It’s a delicate procedure that goes beyond stretching out that urethral opening of yours until one (or both) of you cums.

Urethral sounding risks

Sounding is not without its risks; you must understand the dangers before you can practice this kink safely. Improper technique can lead to injury, infections, and other complications. These aren’t typically issues if you prepare and approach the process carefully. But if you ever notice unusual pain, bleeding, or discomfort, stop immediately.

Urinary tract infections (UTIs) are often the most common problem people experience after sounding. You won’t need to stock up on cranberry juice if you practice proper hygiene and ensure your tools are sterile before insertion. Physical injuries, such as urethral stricture, are another concern since the urethra isn’t naturally accepting of large objects. Always listen to your body and avoid forceful insertion.

You’ll increase these risks if you attack your hole with reckless abandon. Instead, use lots of lube, take things slow, and ensure your sounding toy is clean and sterile. But as long as you’re aware of the risks, you can sound to your heart’s (and prostate’s) content!

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First-time urethral sounding: How to do it safely

Are you interested in popping your twig and berry cherry? Here’s a start-to-finish, quick-and-dirty checklist for a safe and pleasurable sounding experience:

Preparation and sterilization

Preparation is vital before you even think about inserting anything. Make sure everything is clean before you start; that includes the tools you’ll be using, your soon-to-be-penetrated pecker, and your hands. Sterilizing your instruments (e.g., sounders and plugs) minimizes the risk of infection.

A good practice is to soak your sounders in a medical-grade disinfectant or boil them for a few minutes. Additionally, ensure your environment is clean and comfortable. Lay down a clean towel or designate a dedicated area for this activity. Doing a little mise en place will help you relax and focus on the experience.

Inserting it into the urethra

Be gentle with your genital area, and use plenty of lube. This isn’t a race; you want to make the experience as comfortable as possible. Insert the sounder carefully, paying attention to your body’s signals. If something feels off, don’t push your luck. It’s essential to stay physically and mentally relaxed, so consider engaging in some deep breathing exercises before you begin. 

Exploring for sexual pleasure

Once you’ve made the initial insertion, take your time to explore. Gently move the sound in and out, adding lube as necessary and experimenting with depth and angle. Remember to listen to your body; it’s your guide in this adventure. Sounding with a sexual partner requires communication and verbal feedback. Let them know what feels good (or not so good).

Removing the tool from your urethra

Remove the urethral sounding tool slowly and gently after you’re done rooting around in there. Don’t yank or pull too aggressively, especially if it’s your first time. You’re performing a sex act, not starting a lawnmower. 

After you’re done, take a moment to assess how you feel, physically and emotionally. Many people experience a mix of sensations after kink or BDSM practices. Reflecting on sexual experiences can make future sessions even more pleasurable.

What if the object gets stuck even if I used enough lube?

First, don’t panic — do your best to stay calm and relaxed. If you can’t remove it after gently tugging (emphasis on gently), it’s time to seek medical help. It’s better to be safe than sorry; don’t let embarrassment or concerns about what the doctors will think keep you from getting the help you need. Trust us — they’ve seen it all; cock sounding is just another Tuesday to them.

If you’re with a partner, immediately tell them what’s happening. They can help keep you grounded and calm while you figure things out. Stress and tension can worsen the pain, so take a few deep breaths. A trained medical professional can handle it.

Clean up

After your first successful foray into your family jewels, it’s time to thoroughly clean and sterilize everything. Wash yourself and any tools to help prevent infections. Store your tools somewhere where they won’t get dirty. A sounding rod is a kind of sex toy, so you should treat it like one. It’s also wise to inspect your instruments for signs of wear. A worn-down sounding tool should be replaced to minimize the risk of hurting yourself in the future.

Penis sounding tools

So, what can you use as a safe penis sounding tool? Before you go shopping for drain snakes, know there are purpose-built tools. Here’s what you should use to get that sexy sensation safely without damaging your dick. (Hint: You’ll want lots of lube no matter which tool you use.)

Sounders

The obvious stars of the sounding world — sounders! These are usually metal rods designed explicitly for urethral play. They come in various shapes and sizes, so you can choose your own adventure.

Stainless steel rods are the most popular because they’re easy to sterilize and highly durable. Silicone options are softer, so some might prefer them for the first time. Regardless of your pick, start with a smaller diameter tool to properly ease yourself into the experience. You can also use dilators that gently stretch the urethral opening, making your sounding experience more pleasurable.

Plugs

Plugs are different from traditional metal rods, but they’re still safe and designed for this specific sex practice. These add more fullness and pressure to the experience, so if that’s the aspect of sounding that gets your rocks off, plugs are for you. Plugs can also be used in combination with other forms of stimulation for a more unique sensation. When exploring plugs, find one made from body-safe materials, and always lube up generously.

Catheters

Catheters offer a different level of stimulation compared to a rod or dilator. They’re typically used for medical purposes. (The doctor is in.)

If you’re considering using a catheter, ensure you understand how to do so safely, as they require a bit more knowledge and care than other sounding tools. If you have questions about using catheters for sex, consult a healthcare professional. This can help you avoid pain or infection.

Does sounding sound like a good time?

Sounding might not be everyone’s cup of pee — er, tea. But if you’re curious to see how your cock responds to a little friendly pressure, urethral sounding could be an exciting addition to your sex life. Just remember, safety should always be your top priority — a wise philosophy to adopt for every aspect of your sex life. With the proper preparation, tools, and techniques, you can enjoy this kink while preventing pain, harm, or UTIs.

You know what else sounds like a good time? A sex partner who wants to explore kinks and fetishes with you! Find a sounding buddy on the Grindr app today.