The Magic Touch: How to Give a Handjob Like A Pro

Roller coasters. Video games. Handjobs. What do these things have in common? They fill us with nostalgia for our teen years.

Handjobs were probably your first introduction to sexual play. And although you may have graduated to more advanced pleasure tactics like blowjobs, fingering, and anal sex, there’s a lot of untapped power in the palm of your hand.

If you masturbate (and we know you do), you still use your handy skills on the regular. Now, it’s time to share the love by learning how to give a handjob like a pro.

What is a handjob?

You’re probably familiar with handjobs, but you know what they say about assumptions — they make an ass out of u and me (and that’s not the kind of ass we’re into). So, in case you’re new to hand-to-gland combat, here’s a quick primer to help you out.

A handjob is a form of manual stimulation where one person uses their hand to stimulate a partner’s genitals. Or hey, maybe even two partners (you do have two hands, after all).

For most people, handjobs are one of the earliest forms of sexual exploration, and they’ll often remain a part of your foreplay routine. But for sides who are only into non-penetrative play, handies are more than just foreplay — they’re a main event.

Whether you’re a top, bottom, side, or vers, handjobs don’t have to be basic. All it takes is a little creativity to give your partner the magic touch.

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How to give a good handjob

Ready to produce some very happy endings? Try these handjob tips that are sure to make him cum in no time:

1. Bring the heat

Cold hands can be a shock to the system, especially if he’s prone to shrinkage. To make the experience more comfortable, rub your palms together or hold them under warm water for a few seconds before tightening your grip on his dick.

2. Lube it up

“Chafing” and “penis” should never appear in the same sentence. (Yeah, we just broke our own rule… you can spank us later.) Lubrication reduces friction and makes every movement feel smoother and more intense.

Start with a little lube so it’s not too slippery to maintain a good hold, then add more as needed to keep things gliding along.

Pro tip: Coconut oil or even unscented, alcohol-free lotion can work in a pinch. Just note that oil breaks down latex, so wash it off before busting out any condoms to ensure you both stay safe.

3. Spit on it

If you’re in the heat of the moment and don’t have lube, coconut oil, or lotion on hand, a little saliva will do the trick. It’s natural, adds a touch of spontaneity, and shows how into it you are. You’re literally drooling over him! Simply spit on your palm or straight onto his dick and start going to town.

4. Start slow

Begin with slow, gentle strokes to build up tension and excitement. Rushing can be overwhelming and overstimulating, so ease into things to make the experience last.

5. Switch up the speed

Finding your rhythm is important, but so is keeping him on his toes. Vary your speed to make each movement feel fresh, alternating between slow, intense strokes and faster, more playful movements.

6. Use both hands

Double the hands means double the fun. You can overlap your hands on his shaft or put one above the other for a more intense sensation. And if you’re really feeling adventurous, kick off your shoes and get your feet involved.

7. Widen your grip

Play with the head of his penis, but don’t stop there — run your hands from the base of his shaft to the tip to make sure every inch of his dick is included.

8. Touch his balls

A gentle but playful testicular tickle will send his pleasure through the roof. Keep one hand moving on his shaft and use the other to fondle his balls.

9. Play with the pressure

Some prefer a light touch, whereas others enjoy a stronger grip. Try changing up the pressure from gentle to firm. Pay attention to his reactions to gauge what feels best.

10. Twist and (make him) shout

You’re not straight, so why should your movements be? Instead of sliding your hands up and down his shaft, experiment with twisting motions to heighten sensation, especially around the head. Just be careful not to grip too hard as you twist — the reaction you’re going for is “Right there!” not “Rug burn!”

11. Don’t neglect his head

The head of the penis is packed with thousands of nerve endings, so don’t forget to give some extra love to this pleasure powerhouse. Circular motions or soft, rhythmic strokes on his knob are sure to make him sob with delight.

12. Use your fingertips

Drag the tips of your fingers softly along the shaft for a light, teasing sensation. It’s like a tickle, but better — the perfect way to make him crave whatever comes next.

13. Hit the pause button

Speaking of teasing, nothing will toy with him quite like pausing every now and then. Little breaks will leave him hungry for more, making the next touch feel even more intense.

14. Put your back into it

OK, maybe not your back. But don’t let the “hand” in “handjob” fool you into thinking that’s the only part of your body you can touch him with. Lean in close, letting your chest or stomach brush against his dick. Make eye contact to send a shiver down his spine. The more connections you create between your bodies, the more sensual and intimate the experience will be.

15. Stroke in sync with his breathing

Watch his chest move up and down, and match your rhythm to his breathing patterns. This handjob technique helps things flow more naturally while intensifying his experience.

16. Try the corkscrew

Place one hand at the base of his dick and the other closer to the head, then twist in opposite directions for a unique sensation that feels incredible. Just remember to use plenty of lube and not to grip too hard; if it results in a rash, you’re doing it wrong.

17. Incorporate temperature play

Our first piece of advice was to warm up your hands. But if you’re feeling adventurous, jerk him off after holding an ice cube, then hold your hand under hot (not scalding) water for a temperature contrast that makes him quiver.

18. Spice up your vocabulary

You can heighten the mood by talking dirty (or flirty). If he responds well to words of encouragement, tell him what a good boy he is. And if it’s nastiness that makes him nut, go ahead and let your filth flag fly.

19. Let him help

If he’s a hands-on type of guy or you’re struggling to find the right rhythm, let him guide your hand with his. Giving him partial control will show you exactly what he likes.

20. Play with his prostate

With plenty of lube, a relaxed approach, and his verbal consent, gently stimulate his prostate by inserting a finger or anal vibrator a couple of inches into his rectum and applying light pressure toward the front of his body. He’s likely to find the dual stimulation extremely enjoyable, but watch for cues of discomfort just in case.

21. Finish strong

If you can tell he’s about to ejaculate, find a steady rhythm and stick with it. Finishing things off at a consistent pace will make it easier for him to cum.

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